Hi, I'm a house wife. My husband is addicted to the phone. And we have understanding issues. I feel like m emotionally dependant on him. I do so many things for him on bed In turn this makes him sleep not sexually active. He is lazy. He doesn't admire me intern laugh at me. I feel the main reason behind this is good. He has a very possessive mother mainly mummas boy. He comes late to the room and falls asleep. I feel that my expectations are hurt. I am very emotionally dependant on him. I think this is my problem. I keep thinking about him since m idle. He comes from office I expect him to spend time with me intern I find him with the phone and in front of the TV watching debates. Its been 10 months we got married. I still didn't get thoughts of having a kid because of all these issues. The main issue is I wanted to marry a guy working in abroad, he was working in abroad but got transferred here after marriage unfortunately now he is here. My in laws mind me alot this is so disturbing. My husband is always parents oriented he sleeps only after they sleep. He is addicted to movies always watch movies on weekends and I would plan something for him on bed he would either sleep or doesn't enjoy what I do. When he comes from office I find him glued to the sofa with the phone. He leaves by 9.30 and comes home by 8 pm. He doesn't move from the sofa. He then watches debates on TV. At times I make him feel relaxed on bed by Strip tease, blowjob and I massage his whole body with oil sometimes only his private part. With candle light lit around to make him feel soothing. The reaction to this is he sleeps. He told me a few things that He feels lazy to continue He feels lazy to take bath the next day. I mean head bath He gets disturbed when it's getting late (after 12 am) .so he doesn't feel like having sex. The worst part is he never asked me anything till now. I do it by myself with so much interest I am feeling shy that as a girl I do it. I think I overdo it. He never asked me even once for a blowjob since 10 months of our marriage. He sleeps off all the time. At night we ll be lying on bed I start with my hand I find him asleep in a few min. Nowadays I stopped. What I wonder alot is. I am everything to him what a man would actually desire. More than what is on porn I can say. I do so much for him. It's not just stripteasing, it would be a dance to, And lastly he has a problem if we have contact on a day the next days at times not always I feel like having he shouts at me. Or if I ask two three days later he says we just had a few days ago now what. I don't get sleep Normally I feel disturbed and keep asking him whether he is awake or he slept and irritate him. He laughs at me. At times ,Saying y r you moving like that when I am teasing him. He laughs when I make noises during sex. Nowadays when I give him a blowjob or when I am over him wearing a night dress I don't find him looking at me. I find him looking at the wall in a deep thought. Past few times we did. There was a problem His penis was erect for a minute then It got down it took so much time for him to make it hard and finally it didn't .for which I did not get upset in turn I cheered him up saying its on no problem. I have see his past history. When he was a bachelor lot of porn And he has many girls as friends. He is very handsome very fair. So many girls admire him. I am very emotionally dependant on him and he takes advantage of that. I did not know I'll end up loving someone this much that I would consult a psychologist. Last thing doctor. I remember when ever I used to come to my mother's house and stay. When I go back I check his phone and found porn in history what shocked me was I am more than what is there. I was shocked I asked him. I did not scold him and all. Finally now I don't find but I get restless when. I leave him alone. His last seen at 3 am makes me feel a bit upset. It's incognito mode I feel. As far as I know he used to watch when he was a bachelor and now only when I come to my mother's house I think he watches. He is very attached to his mother. Actually he was in abroad I was happy seeing that I got married but now he is here and doesn't seem like going back .his parents are the main cause. Now too after coming back from office he never comes to the room because of his mother he feels what she ll think. Whether she is alone sitting in the hall. He ll everyday go talk to the mother nicely then only come inside the room. Mother is very possessive. If we go out together she has a change in her behavior. I had faced a lot of possessiveness from her side went through depression first few months now know how to tackle her. I would like to know what is the problem. How should I behave.