I am 20 years old. I live in a rural area (village). For the last 3-4 years I feel like I don't want anyone around me. I feel much better alone. I don't like to talk much to large no of people. I don't feel comfortable when I sit between so many people and I don't have much to talk n discuss with them. I am from himachal but now m studying in Punjab pursuing medicine. So during my holidays I don't like to visit home I like to stay in hostel. I don't like to talk much to other people ,although I had never been like that, I used to be very cheerful person. When I was 11 I was sexually touched I a very bad way but I never told about this to anyone, n that was my uncle n from that time I feel so depressed. It happened to me 3 times but I never told anyone. Whenever I am alone I feel so bad starts crying without any reason. I don't have much friends. Its difficult for me to make friends. N all my friendships never lasts long. Sometimes I feel like nobody needs me n I should die but I can't.its like sudden attack of sadness when I am alone without any reason. Sometimes I remember bad things that happens to me in past and starts crying, although I try much not to remember those. But all in vain. Even in family functions I don't like to take part, I try best to not interact with anyone .these things make me very depressed. Whenever I sit between other people I couldn't talk becoz I feel like they will make fun of me. I don't like to go home. Sometimes so many bad things are going on in my head and I can't help myself. I don't like to play now. I had always been teased at home becoz during my childhood I use to dance like girls. But sexually I am straight n nothing wrong with my sexual life. But whenever many people try to talk about their childhood I feel like to rush away from that place, may be becoz they will make fun of my activities. Many people told me like you look like a girl when I was 13 and up to 15. But m OK sexually n straight. But I don't know why if anyone say me this now I feel like I should stab that person. I feel so depressed n this affects my studies alot. Although I am very good student n one of 5 toppers of my class. But besides that I take so much time to prepare the whole syllabus at a time becoz these bad things continuously run in head n distract me away from my studies. I cry a lot when I am alone. I always live in fantasies that m above the sky becoz I have so many dreams in my life. But I always stop myself, that what will people say to me. I feel so stressed at least 4 days in a week. I had many bad experiences in my life. I had always wanted to be far away from my home n now finally I m. I always feel like to migrate to any such place where nobody knows me n even I don't know anyone there .I want myself to be so far from those who know me. I want to go under plastic surgery so that people don't recognise me .n want to start a new life on my own conditions. I have been teased on so many unnecessary topics by family friends and those things makes me so anxious n depressed. I want them to kill away but I can't do this. E.g I like cooking, so they will say that its for girls and starts to call me girls n a woman. These things look very small reason to others but these affected my childhood a lot. I never wanted to see them again. So just my ques is m I dealing with depression or something else? please help me n advice me, how can I overcome to this?
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Hello librate user, kindly see a psychologist in person. Speaking to them abt your past sexual abuse at 11 is very important. If required they ll refer you to psychatrist n you ll come out of your feeling n depressed mood.
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Hello dear lybrate-user, Warm welcome to Lybrate.com I have evaluated your query thoroughly.* This condition is major depressive disorder from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder - which in your case is childhood trauma in form of sexual abuse at 11 years age)* As per your narration, you are very bright and you have an excellent career opportunities, so I deeply request you on personal grounds:- Keep BE POSTIVE attitude in life.- Do not think what people say or think about you, make your own ways to live.- LIVE, smile,work for your own satisfaction, not for others.- Leave the idea of plastic surgery which will change your external look, your internal integrity does not change by that.- Regular basis deep breathing exercises, concentration techniques, relaxations exercises, YOGA are very powerful weapons to best outcome.- Can get medicine help, counselling sessions from expert psychiatrist.- Avoid smoking, alcohol if using. Hope this clears your query. Wishing you fine recovery. Welcome for any further assistance. Regards take care.
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Hi, It seems like you are having a really difficult time. You seem depressed .But, the good news it that depression is a treatable condition and you will get better with right treatment. I would suggest that you visit a psychiatrist who will help you with medication and psychological treatment. There are things that you can do yourself to help your mood like exercising, cultivating a hobby, reading self help books. But,apart from these please seek professional help too. Please do not hesitate to immediately seek help if you feel that your life is not worth living or have thoughts of harming yourself. All the best.
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