My father expired last year. I have 8 years old son and husband is working in Merchant Navy working abroad like 6 months out of india and 3-4 months in india. Once my father expired then I was with my mother for 1 year in patna and this also resulted in discontinuing my kid education, however kid was still going to home tution. Now the thing is that as per the mutual agreement from my husband I took this 1 year to give moral support to my mother. Now I am back to my husband where we are staying i. E. HYDERABAD. So I still want to support my mother as she has responsibility of 1 more unmarried daughter. Regarding my family then 1 elder daughter with 3 kids settled in delhi and 1 younger daughter unmarried working in Patna and 1 younger brother working in Merchant Navy. So I want to support my Mother for 1 more year for which my husband is not accepting and also I told him that I will continue the kid education in patna. He is saying that I can go and support but I have to leave the kid so that he can stay here and take care of the kid for 1 year and I can come back and we both are emotionally attached that we do not want to take divorce. FYI - My mother is suffering from anxiety and depression and insomnia, hypertension, cholesterol and dyslipidemia. My husband wants that either I can bring my mother to hyderabad and can stay with me but this is not possible as my mom cannot leave her younger daughter alone. He also said that my younger sister can quit the job and take care of mother but we do not want to do that. Same thing for my brother to quit the job for 1 year and to stay with my mom but we do not want to do this. Also my elder sister is ready to come over patna and take care of my mom but my mom do not want to do this as she has 3 kids age 13 and 14 which will be difficult to manage bcoz of their education. THIS IS THE MATTER WHICH IS CAUSING STRESS ON OUR EVERYDAY LIFE AND THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT IT MAY END UP TO divorce. SO PLEASE HELP US.
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Hi lybrate-user, I can understand that you would be in tremendous stress. But your husband's worries are also correct. You may tackle the situation like this that try to make your mother and your siblings understand your situation. You all can decide to take the responsibility of your mother turn by turn. That your mother can stay 3-4 months each with everyone if u. Your younger sister because she is working can stay in some working women's hostel and when your brother comes home during that period your mother can stay with your brother and sister in patna. This way she would also feel good and won't feel bad when she would be with you or your elder sister. Both the husbands of you both sisters also won't feel burdened with this system. So try to make it a team effort so that you get less stressed. Regards
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