I am unmarried girl 27 years old is in relationship from past 3 years with a married men who is 10 years elder then me and having 2 kids. My problem is that I love him a lot and want to marry him. I can't think of another guys. Earlier he used to give me assurance that he will gonna marry me but now he is refusing. I can't survive without him. From past few days suicidal thoughts are coming in my mind. I am having social isolation too. Most of the times I am used to cry. I am feeling so depressed. I do not know how to come back from this trauma. I have never ever felt for someone to such a great amount. I just want to die. I try to make my self involve whole day but waste in the end I feel so depressed. I am not able to concentrate on my studies too. I am helpless .please help.

Dr. Mukesh TrivediPsychiatrist34yrs exp

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First of all you need to Relax, calm down and start thinking, understanding and accepting clearly. The married man who is showing you love, care and affection is very very clearly using your innocence and gullibility and exploiting you physically, mentally, emotionally and may be Sexually, Yes I understand that you deeply love him with all of your spirits but I am sorry to say that its only from your side. One sided. He is only using you, so please wake up and stop throwing and belittling yourself on him. He doesn't deserve you love. Please value yourself and stop thinking of killing your self for such a person who is only and only exploiting you and doesn't have situations to marry you and have a life with you. You are actually misunderstanding him and blindly trusting. Wake up dear and move on and if you still have problems managing yourself you may contact me either in person or online via Skype to open your heart out, guidance and support. And also if needed Psychotherapy. Move on and start loving and caring yourself. Be quick, you need immediate help.  

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