I was having a boyfriend. Now he left me alone. I love him a lot. I can do anything for him. It's very difficult for me to forget about him and all his memories. I am felling depressed. I started threaten from people's. Whole day I was thinking about him. I am trying to divert my mind. But nothing works. I feel guilty for me or for my family. Why I was crossed my limits for him. I just feel that I should have to myself. Its very difficult for me to overcome from all this. please help me. I started shouting at everyone without any reason. The whole day I feel angry. Every little thing makes me angry. Sometimes I feel that much angry that I kill someone. I fight with all my friends my family. I feel lonely. He never understand my felling. I don't know Wt can I do. He never loved me. We were in a relationship from last three years. But a days he just want to talk about sex. If I talk about the other things. Then he said he's getting bored. Nd last month he said he didn't lv me and broke up with me. I don't know wt to do now. Plzz help me.

Mr. P. RajanPsychologist26yrs exp

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Relax dear lybrate user. You have to understand one basic thing. The ultimate target of love, of particularly your age group is sex. And, a healthy love must be a blend of both psychological and physical attachments to each other. Both kind of attraction and attachment is needed by both male and female. The problem here is, boys generally prefer sexual intimacy to psychological intimacy. In girls it is Vice versa. Moreover, love cant be got by forcing anybody. It should be spontaneous. Just think of a situation in which this break-up happens after marrying and having children? The pain will be tremendous. In this line of thinking, you are a lucky girl. Dont try to forget him. At the same time never beg him for love. If possible, try to keep in touch with him as good friends. Set apart time to think and talk about him to a good friend of you everyday. Other times learn something new or socialize as much as possible. Never be alone. By and by, the memories of him will start vanishing. Finally, it seems to me that yours is not of a healthy love. It is like drug dependence such as smoking, alcohol etc., which can be UNLEARNED by replacing it with other healthy habits, possibly by getting married. I hope you would understand. 

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