Hi, I'm 32 year old married man. I got married about four year ago and it was an arranged marriage. Now I am hopeless due to hyper behavior of my wife. Whenever I deny something to my wife or try to make her understand something, a long argument take place and if I am not agree with her than she becomes hyper and at last she behaves like insane. Try to leave the home immediately or try to harm herself by taking the knife at her throat (even on throat of my 2.5 year old son). She had also tried to jump from the running car (with son) ones time because she was scolded her for some expensive purchase. But just after half an hour she becomes normal and accepts her insane behavior was wrong. She also accepts her fault in part and complaining a headache just after the incident. Initially I ignored this but throughout time I see repeated pattern. Her some relatives told me that she possess this type of behavior since childhood and her farther and grandmother also have the same pattern. Is this any type of genetically disease? Or psychological problem only. Is there any cure for it? Please suggest me.
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Hello lybrate-user your wife's behavior could be genetic and / or socially learned. Social learning happens as a protective learned behavior. She has seen others behaving in particular way in stressful situation and that is was she her learned response to any stressful situation. The good news is that we human being have a capability to re-structure our response through our will and freedom of choice. I believe as she regrets her bahavior later and feel sorry. She will be willing to see someone who could help her learn and restructure her stress response mechanism. Any behavior modification technique along with some stress management tools will help her. Look for some one in your area as she might be more comfortable talking to someone in person. Both of you need to keep both patience and faith. Your love for each other is what help you sail through this tough time. If you can't find someone I will be available for telephonic consultation and intervention. In that case feel free to send me personal message. Wishing you both much success and fulfilled life togather.Â
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