Husband is too much busy so no time for me, for sex, due to this I am in depression n I find all my need outside 2 time it happened n ; I understand that outside I will get only sex not else still I went there n get depress 2 time I hurt badly n I lost my self respect now I don't hav interest in sex n I don't want anything frn outside, I feel that I made big mistake but when I saw that guy I get upset n depress n I can't remove all this things frn my mind.

Dr. Sreenivasan Vazhoor RamsinghPsychiatrist9yrs exp

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Respected Madam, I can understand that you are feeling a bit guilty due to your "extramarital affair" but to label that as Depression, you would need to have whole lot of other symptoms too like a persistently depressed mood, loss of interest in all activities, decreased energy, changes in your activity level, sleep and appetite, deceased concentration long with other depressive ideas like helplessness, hopelessness and worthlessness, etc etc and these would have to persist for more than 2 weeks. If you feel that you have some symptoms of these, only in relation to the stressor, which in your case would be seeing the other guy, it could be an adjustment disorder. It is important to differentiate as your guilt and adjustment problems would need only a short counselling while depression might need intensive therapy or medicines. If you are having problems in your marital relationship and feel that your sexual desires are not adequately met by your husband, you should have a talk with him regarding the same and let him know how you are feeling and you might need to keep reminding him, if he is as you say a busy man. Whether or not, you reveal the part of your extramarital affair, is entirely upto you as you would be knowing better than me, how your husband would react to such a revelation. As long as you continue to have these marital problems, your mood is going to get worse. So my advise would be to go see a psychiatrist or therapist at the earliest and enroll yourself and your husband for Marital/Couples therapy. 

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