I lost somebody last year an since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping myself all the time .please helo me.
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Hi lybrate-user! I can understand the pain that you are going through, I am really sorry for that. Depression is most common when each and everyone lose someone you love so much, but it varies from individual to individual how they overcome. Usually depressed individual will try to keep themselves aloof, not interested in anything, but slowly you need to divert your depressed thought to something else like your hobbies. Try to spend sometime with nature also. If you find difficulty to manage then consult me either through text chat or call me when you are interested to undergo treatment and counselling for the same. Take care. Be relaxed. With regards,
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Hello Lybrate User, Grief is not a bridge you can pass over then and find yourself unscathed on the other side. I think it can end when you read the story differently. When you remember that we are born to die and nobody whoever he is can choose how to die, part of the grief will pass away. I cannot be of great help to you except that I remind you that life continues through your spiritual relation. I mean you see them in you, in your smile, in your daily life when you do good on earth, work rigorously, meet good-hearted people who can talk to you about heartbreaking events almost similar to or worse than yours. Briefly, bear in mind that life is so beautiful and, paradoxically though, its beauty lies in its multifaceted mystery. I wish my words could be at least a thread of light that may illuminate your mind to some optimism on earth. These are the things that helped me get through such a trying time: 1. Self-care, self-care, self-care. (Oh, and did I say self-care?) The shock of loss to all of our bodies—emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual—is superb. When we wake in the morning, we question the very nature of who we are. Upon awakening there is a split second when everything is okay in our world. And then we remember. The storm clouds cover our head again. Our bodies need to be fed during this time, in order to handle such trauma. Self-care is personal, but I did the things I knew my body wanted: Lots of baths, fresh pressed organic juices, sticking to a daily structure, such as meditating in the morning, exercising, journaling, reading inspiring books, talking with friends, getting out in sunshine, taking walks, admitting my weakness, and learning to nurture myself. These were the base things that I knew I needed. 2. Accept there’s a lot you don’t know. When the pain of loss happens, it’s like a lighting bolt comes and shakes the foundation of the ground. We question everything—our identity, who we are, where we come from, and where we’re going. There is power in surrendering to the unknown. In coming to accept that we no longer have control over what happens to us, we realize that what we once knew we no longer can know. In fact, much of the spiritual experience is coming to realize all that we are not, and less about what we think we are or what we know. Here, there is great freedom. And it helps us to meet life’s adversity with courage, head-on. 3. Allow time and space. I learned once in a counseling psychology class that it takes two years to grieve the loss of a loved one. In human time, that seems like an eternity. There are stages. And each stage brings a remembrance, especially once you start hitting the “year marks.” During the last year, each “mark” felt like Valentine’s Day without a lover. “Oh, this is the day I knew my marriage was over,” “Oh, this is the day my mother died,” “Oh, this was the last holiday we spent together…” Recognizing that grief needs time and allowing space for the grief process to unfold gave me permission to hold that great bowl. 4. Accept that sometimes you have a bad day for no apparent reason. Months, even over a year in I would have a day (or several) where it felt like there was no reason at all to feel in the dumps. I wanted to refuse to let it get to me. “Stay productive, keep it going; at least, that’s what your mother would want.” But on those days, I just held up at home. Watched The Real Housewives on Bravo if I needed. Read People magazine. Saw a chick flick. Ordered a pizza with mushrooms and olives and ate it all. I came to learn that grief pressures you to go within. I told my friends, “Bad day. Can’t talk. That’s all.” I didn’t try to force it to be something different. 5. Allow light in the middle of it all. Although there were many weeks of despair that seemed to bleed together, like a faded diary dropped in a hot bath, there were days in between when I experienced joy. A fun lunch out with a friend, New Years out with my brother, a no-reason-to-be-happy-day when I felt vibrant and creative. Or like at that holiday party, which I didn’t really want to go to, but I put on make-up and blow dried my hair and ran into an old college friend. Embrace those days and don’t feel guilty. Life is to be lived, because one day—and we all know the adage—we will die. 6. Accept that this too shall pass. Like everything else, all suffering will go, until one day it comes again. The greatest thing about death is that it helps us grow up. It matures us. It brings wisdom. It strengthens our bones. It teaches us to let go. We learn we can go through hard times, and with little effort the sun shines again. We can take off our shoes and touch toes to sand and run on the beach, knowing that we made it through. Our happiness never really went away—it still exists inside of us—yet, we are remembering it anew. Fresh, transformed, aliveness engages us again.
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Hello lybrate-user loss of some one can never be fulfilled but it's life which has to move on so feel gud, have confidence n be positive for your life n I am sure you will feel good. U can ask for further information n assistance.
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I know one feels bad after this but you will get over it....do not struggle with your present condition..it will pass! also always remember that person will always remain with you in your memories you can always recall... you may take rescue remedy ,drops thrice daily...its a bach flower remedy available at leading homeopathic stores
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To fight depression you can do meditaion and do yoga . Otherwise you may have to take antidepressants
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