Dr. Vikas Khanna

The panic attack may be  expressed  as a feeling of choking, palpitation , sweating , numbness or fear of approaching death

But here are some real time facts for those who consider themselves as a victim of panic attacks:

1. They are just like a  false fire  alarms triggered by your thoughts who are in anticipation of something bad!

Remember....There is no fire!

2. Every panic attack passes away without killing you ,leaving you just as you were!,   with some rest and water and may be an anti anxiety pill.

3. All the medical investigations almost everytime reveal that there is nothing wrong.

4. There is no pathology, it just indicates how uptight one is, how obsessed one is to avoid a negative outcome and how seriously tied up one is to each and every action

6. The build up to a panic attack is inability to let go of the persistent  fictional fearful thoughts

7. Panic attack is an anticipation of a bad event, which does not happen and eventually becomes worse than what was feared!

7.  There is a genetic pre-disposition to anxiety , when one accepts it, it just stays in one small corner of one's life, sharing a marginal space

9  The embarrasment of going to emergency ward after every attack and coming back with an anti anxiety pill and no heavyweight diagnosis has not sunken deep?

10. Lack of trust (in life , body's healing intelligence,  people etc ) could be a highest common factor in anxiety sufferers

11 One absolute truth abouth anxiety attack is that "it passes away " .

11. Are you still after all these years still taking your thoughts (that are telling you that something bad may happen) seriously !!

Management

Apart from the psychiatric help in the form of anti-anxiety medicine which one may consider one does not have to do a thing!!

How not to do a thing?

a. No literature on anxiety, no self help , no tricks like meditation(which is suppression)

b. Not  dealing with those nasty thoughts, not giving them any significance or value

c. And finally no doctor hopping!!

As one shfits one's focus to do meaningful and fulfilling things, the ghost of anxiety passes away compaining of reduced attention!

From terrorism to natural disasters, there are a number of traumatic events constantly hurling themselves at us. Given the amount of stress it causes an adult, imagine how a child can process this information. Often traumatic events that occur in childhood can trigger phobias and anxiety disorders that last a lifetime if not dealt with correctly.

Each child responds to trauma in a different way depending on the circumstances and their age and personality. What is common is that all children turn towards their parents and teachers for support in these situations.

Hence, it is important to understand how to help your child deal with traumatic events. Here are a few steps you should follow.

1) Provide comfort

The first thing to do in a traumatic event is to reassure and comfort the child. Reinforce your child's sense of security by following a normal schedule and maintaining regular eating and sleeping habits. Encourage your child to talk and ask questions and discuss the situation with them in a way appropriate to your child's age and concerns.

2) Accept their needs

Children show the need for reassurance in different ways. For some, it may be the need for extra physical contact in the form of hugs while for others it may be ensuring that their favourite teddy bear is with them constantly. Be patient with children and indulge their needs in such situations.

3) Limit the amount of information available

Media often magnifies a traumatic event making it all the more difficult for a child to apprehend. Children can often be mislead or frustrated by media coverage of a traumatic event. Thus, it is a good idea to limit the use of television, radios and internet. As far as possible do not let your child watch the news alone.

4) Stay in touch

If your child goes to school, his or her teacher is the parent figure at school. Stay connected with your child's teachers and the other adults in their life to monitor changes in behavioral patterns.

5) Create distractions

If left alone with nothing to do, a child's mind will dwell on the trauma. Encourage them to find a hobby to cope with the negative emotions. Music and art are two good outlets for stress. You could also play board games, read or play outdoors to distract them.

6) Get professional help

Sometimes you may need help to deal with a traumatic event in your child's life. If your child shows signs of behavioral changes, academic problems, emotional outbursts, anxiety, depression, insomnia or social withdrawal; you should consult a professional counselor

Hello!

I am Dr. Vikas Khanna. I working as counselor and corporate trainer in Delhi and Gurgaon. I will be talking about Procrastination And indecisiveness. So, first we will talk about procrastination. Lots of people have work to do but they are not able to do that. They just keep pushing that work. It can be because you do not like the work which has been assign to you. Let's talk about other dementia. Where you want to do a certain action and you are not able to do it and pushing it ahead.

It can be because you are stuck to the pros and cons. The more you act mentally, the less you act physically. So, there are pros and cons of everything. How to manage this. Can you be a little more spontaneous? So, a sequenced approach is needed with very limited analysis. Many people spend their life on the bank of the river. Wants to take a deep but still analyzing. If there are 2 many things you want to withdraw. You do not want to react. A touch of indecisiveness.

You should be confident about your work. No one can give you any surety about any outcome. You have to do relative. And then you have to take a plunge. But indecisiveness is a kind of funny demand of outcome. And the outcome can never be perfect. So, why not to take a plunge. Why not minimize all the analysis. for any other help, you can contact me through Lybrate.

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Hello!

I am Dr. Vikas Khanna. I am working as a counselor in Delhi & Gurgaon. So, today I will talk about premature ejaculation. A very common sexual problem occurring in almost 1/3 of the population. The psychological component which is normally ignored in premature ejaculation is the personality of the individual. People who are agitated, often have this problem. So, the nervous system is very agitated. And one is always in hurry to do things. The conduction of the nerves is very high. And that could be due to the deficiency of zinc and magnesium.

How can we get rid of this problem? There is no magic pill for premature ejaculation. One has to attend to the core personality issues which is always impatient and in hurry to do things. It is always in your head. All sexual problems are rooted in your head. One has to work on personality and see how he can slow down himself on these activities. Indulge in lots of sports like golf. You have to start doing things slowly. As you know the agitation and the stimulation is directly linked to your breathing pattern and sometimes you see your breathing becomes very fast when ejaculation happens. So, relaxation of mind through breathing is mandatory for the sustained sexual act to occur.

Now let's talk about the causes. One has to eat magnesium-rich diet and zinc like almonds, dark chocolates. The most important thing is to work on your patience. Work on your nervous system which is agitated. A lot of people who have anxiety, depression also suffer from premature ejaculation. Couple therapy helps you a lot. Performance anxiety also brings the problem of premature ejaculation. The couple has to be taught that how to be slow down in a sexual act. There are a lot of herbs which also comes in supplements and there are few homeopathic remedies which also help in slowing down the conduction of the nerves. Must remember that the conduction is the desensitization of your nerves and psychology is directly linked with very fast conduction of nerves. For any help, you can consult me at Lybrate.

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If someone in your family or your partner is suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, your mental health is at stake too. You will have to take care of yourself and your emotional needs first. Life can be frustrating for you all the time. But, you need to identify your ‘feel good’ activities and take some time out of your daily life to relax and calm down. Remember, you can succeed in the critical task of appeasing or pleasing your dear one with BPD, only when you are at peace with yourself first. Destress yourself to fight back the depression or emotional drainage caused by handling a BPD patient.

Here are few things that can help you have a better life while being in a relationship with a person suffering from BPD:

1. Don’t isolate yourself: You must be in touch with people you like to be with. You need emotional support from friends and family to deal with life. Spending some quality time with friends and family members can add little happiness to your life. It will boost up your energy level to fight back the dark side of life. You must remember that you have a life as well.

2. Take care of your health: Sometimes, relatives of BPD patients forget to take care of their physical health. They forget basic stuffs like having proper meals, exercising, etc just because they are caught-up in a stressful relationship. But, remember you can help your loved one better only when you are physically fit.

3. Manage stress: Don’t get anxious or depressed with the ongoing stress in your life. It will only add to your existing problems. Keep your nerves cool to have a better life for yourself as well as your sweetheart with BPD.

4. Believe in the 3c’s formula: Well, it is a formula recommended by most of the mental health practitioners. Don’t blame yourself for the irrational behaviour of your friend or dear one. The patient with BPD is solely responsible for his or her destructive behaviour or abnormal outburst. You will have to remember these 3c’s: I didn't cause it; I can't cure it; and I can't control it.

5. Careful communication: You have to be very careful while communicating with BPD patients. Don’t argue or try to convince them, when they are already in a disturbed frame of mind or agitated. They might end up getting destructive. Listen to their words carefully and patiently. Occasional nodding in between a conversation is advisable to let them feel assured about the fact that they are being heard and understood.

Don’t forget to acknowledge their feelings. It is also important that you stay calm when the patient is angry and has turned destructive.

In case you have a concern or query you can always consult an expert & get answers to your questions!

Hello!

I'm Dr. Vikas Khanna. I’m working as a counselor cum corporate trainer.

Today I will be talking about a topic called conflict resolution. We all have lot of psychological conflicts. And the basic and the fundamental route of all the conflicts is that you are in between neither right nor to left. First of all you have to identify that what is really you want. Your lot of desires. But we also have contrary opposing desires like I will love to move to a different city, but if I move to a different city there are such challenges, the challenges there. I want to have relationship but that may not work. So that tackiness is in between. Whenever you are in between in any resolution of any conflict is by either going to left or right. So the effort, the effort has to be made to be one-sided to get rid of opposing desires and opposing thoughts. To act physically on your desires and let the mental actions be as less as possible. The more mental action the less is physical action. All the analysis, all the planning, hampers and is the biggest hurdle in your physical action. So why not go to left or right. I wish you wonder action so that all your conflicts remain resolved.

Thank you! And this was Dr. Vikas, you can always contact me through lybrate or you can call me personally. Thank you!