Hello Dr. I am 30 years old, m suffering from depression, sadness, even at this time m crying while typing. Have taken clonazepam and escitalopram for more than 1 year. I have a type relation with someone which is not fulfilling my demands and m not satisfied, we are very good friends, all the time I think about her, want her as if we had not a talk for few hours problem in breathing starts, I feel heavy weight on chest, I masturbate 3 times a day thinking of her, but from last three days I dint, nd feeling very low. Please help me. At this time I am wanting to be admitted in some hospital and give me some injections to sleep for few days continuous. My morning starts with checking her messages. All the day I wait for her calls and msgs. Please help.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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I think that you have become addicted to her. This is not good for any relationship not for your mental wellbeing. Am I to assume that the depression is a result of the poor relationship or is it due to some other factors? If this is a one-sided relationship that too is not healthy and can never materialize. Ideally you should get out of this relationship and I see many of your problems resolved to your advantage. Meet a counselor soon and get that person?s guidance to get out of this relationship soon. For the depression please do the following: Have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love: find someone else to love and to love you back. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive everyday and learn to be contended with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. 

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