Hello Drs. I think I'm suffering from anxiety disorder. I hv a son of 10 months old. My in laws kicked me and my husband when he was 1 month. We lived together and were happy with each other but I used to be very tensed and used to frustrate coz it was not expected what my in laws did to us. Now my husband is also very changed. He just don't care about me. He has restricted me to everything to what I eat and money everything. If I do against him he just start shouting. Sometimes get violent too. Hits me. I was kinda addicted to him and used to share everything now I just keeps everything to myself and I feel so much of pressure. He does not see where he is speaking. He start abusing me in front of maid also. I'm so depressed. Always have constant headache. Age life kuch dikhati hi nahi hai. He doesn't give me money also and doesn't want me to earn also. Just fed up with life. What can I do? Din rat ghut ghut ke nahi jiya jata. Feel like I shud die but wn I see my son I just want to live for him. please help and guide.

Ms. M Sri Vidhya VenkatesanPsychologist17yrs exp

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Hi! lybrate-user, Sorry to hear this pain you are suffering through. Do not worry, things will definitely change. What he earns may not be sufficient for family. Seek your parents support financially and try to mange your needs without depending your hubby. Try working part time or online job wherein you can take care of your little son as well as you. Just try to be as numb as possible with your hubby till your son turns 4 years. By then things will change. If you really want to live with your hubby, then you need to have more patience. May be he is suffering from depression as well bcoz of his unruly parents behavior. So it would be better if you could have food without his knowledge if you really feel damn hungry, like you can prepare something eat and then wash it and keep in such a way that he cannot find out what you had. You never ask or expect anything from your hubby. But for your kid you can demand. Try to keep numb as much as possible expect for kid you can definitely demand your hubby. You try to limit yourself from expressing your desired to him. Things will change. You can actually stress the importance of you working, see if you can demand your hubby in regards to you working part time. Things will change wait with patience. Take care.  

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