I feel depressed n angry n uncertain mood swings. I have lost my patience for certain things n those things I really can not change. I feel insecure n demoralized. How should I boost my confidence. I have suffering from low self esteem. Please help how can I boost myself.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi lybrate-user, Its best you consult a psychologist for psychotherapy and counseling. Feeling down about yourself is one of the many characteristics of low self-esteem. Learning about its causes, and taking practical steps to build your self-esteem, can help to overcome your negative thoughts. 1. Positive self-talk The way that you think about yourself has a huge influence on your self-esteem. If you keep telling yourself that you?re no good, you might just start to believe it even though it?s not true. If you notice that you practice negative self-talk often, check out some ways that you can challenge your negative thinking and build your confidence levels. 2. Don?t compare yourself to others It can be really tempting to measure our own worth against other people. So what if your friend is awesome at table tennis and gets great marks? You just need to figure out what your niche is. Everyone is great at something - what are your strengths? 3. Exercise Exercise helps to improve your mood. 4. Don?t strive for perfection It?s really great if you want to do things well, but keep in mind that perfection isn?t possible. Check out one person?s story of coming to terms with their sweet imperfection. 5. Don?t beat yourself up when you make a mistake Everyone on the planet makes mistakes ? it?s in our basic human nature. Why should you be any different? When you stuff up, don?t stress, just learn from it and move on. 6. Focus on the things you can change There?s no point wasting all your energy thinking about things that you can?t change. Why don?t you have a think about some of the things that are in your power to control and see what you can do about those? 7. Do things that you enjoy If you?re doing things that you enjoy you?re more likely to be thinking positively. Schedule time for fun and relaxation into every day. 8. Celebrate the small stuff Start small and work your way up ? you can?t expect any huge progress to be made overnight. 9. Be helpful and considerate Not only is helping people a great way to boost the moods of others, but you might find that you feel better about yourself after doing something particularly excellent. 10. Surround yourself with supportive people Don?t hang around people who bring you down. Find a group of people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative thinking. If you?ve tried putting these tips into action for a while and you haven?t noticed any differences in the way you feel about yourself, it?s a good idea to talk to someone you trust about it, like a friend or family member. You might also want to make an appointment with a counsellor who can work with you to figure out exactly what?s at the root of your low self-esteem, and how to fix it. Dealing with self-esteem isn?t easy but these people are there to help you if you want it. Consult with me for same. 

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