Need your opinion in my case have been suffering from stress from quite long. From past one year, I am experiencing a peculiar problem. For example if a person has a bad breadth, when the person approaches me the same thought runs in the mind again and again continuously. I tend to avoid them if not able to I get very angry on them and start hating even though they are good to me. Very recently I had a marriage proposal. I was so confused with the guy finally I ended up breaking my engagement. I get negative feeling all day and headache. My doctor told I have depression and anxiety. I am taking medication as well. My fear is whether this situation can recover? I had a thought of ending the life also but now after taking medication I am ok. My parents want me to get married and settle. But I am so scared about this because if I find anything in the person I do not like I overthink. This is upsetting me very much.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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Yes, you can resolve this problem forever. But to do so you will need to combine medication with counseling and continue the later for a long time. There is a tendency to obsess too, which is fear based. The other factor is that your depression is anger related and may have some deep-rooted foundation from childhood. Take your parents with you for counseling and let them share your life's milestones with the counselor to throw light on many issues that have contributed to the anger and fear. Anything that can cause a crippling effect has to pretty strong emotionally and has to be attended to effectively.In the meantime please do the following that can be done all by yourself as you desire: You must be active and work towards your reformation. Many lifestyle changes need to be made to progress away for the condition. When you are depressed, you will feel lazy though I would like to call it lethargy. There is an inertia and lack of energy to even think, let alone act. You are required to literally do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, make you too lazy to even think etc. So when I suggested doing the opposite, you will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. If you are young and you can do it with some commitment. The doctor and counselor are there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with them is very critical for your success. 

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