I have sleeping disorder. I have problem with my relationship from the marriage and I am getting depressed whenever I think about her. I live alone now and I don't get sleep at nights and you had started spending to work at office in late hours, and when I come home I used spend time with TV or smart phones. Which results in sleeping in the morning hours and I m always late to office now a days. I just want to bring me back as I was before marriage. Can anyone help me in resolving this.
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Obviously the separation from your wife is not going down well with you. If the problem in that relationship is ?irretrievable? (as lawyers tend to term it as such only for legal purposes), which I do not endorse that unless you have explored all possible attempts. If it ever goes into divorce without trying every possible means to seek help, then both of you will regret it later when the matter becomes too far gone, and there is no way of turning the clock back. Sometimes it may just be a problem of egos. If that is the case, I advise you at least to put aside your ego and take the initiative without losing any ground in the negotiation. If you have not been for marriage counseling, you are missing a very important intervention. Apart from that I am certain there are a lot of emotions troubling you about the separation. There may be sadness, fear, and anger and it is recommended that you seek the help of a professional to help you process those feelings. You are currently disrupting your biorhythms, which will not only add to stress unknown to you, but will also make your depression worse. Light from the TV and mobile phones will further stimulate the pineal glands and keep you awake. I suggest that you do the following besides going for therapy for marital counseling: Go for regular exercise (breathing through your nostrils only) at a fixed time (at about 6 am) every day, whether you sleep or not. You must develop this habit of sleeping by 10 pm latest every night and wake up at a uniform time by 6 am every morning, even if you do not get sleep. If you do not get sleep, just lie down and if you have a bed lamp (or you could get one) lie down and read something light but not exciting. Your eyes will tire and you will fall asleep. If you like you may also put on light and soft music with the sleep function on. Depending on whether you are a visual or auditory person, you may watch TV in a lying down position until you feel sleepy. Have a warm bath before going to bed (for some people a cold bath at night seems to induce sleep! If you are one of them, please do so). Place the head side of your bed in a North-South position. The room must be as dark as possible and there should be no electronic items that give off even a light LED glow. There must be ample ventilation in the room. Avoid strong odors, except lavender, on your body or in the room, or on your sheets and clothes. There should not be any live plants in your bedroom. Sleep with the lightest of clothes or without any clothing. When lying down to sleep, lie down on your left ear as much as possible, and you could use a pillow between your knees. Do not sleep directly under an overhead fan. You must eat a good breakfast, a fairly light lunch, and an early dinner, which should be a very light meal. Whatever you eat in the other meals, have only a pure carbohydrate meal at night with any vegetables, and preferably before 8 pm. Do not drink much liquids after or near about dinner time. When lying down to sleep you may use the 4-7-8 breathing pattern of sleep-inducement i.e. breathe in for four counts through your nostril only, hold for 7 counts, and exhale with a whoosh sound, through your mouth only, for 8 counts. Repeat this four times in the morning and just before you sleep at night. If you know Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT (check this out either on YouTube or Google), then please practice this too for sleep induction. Self-hypnosis and slow relaxation techniques at night will be tremendously useful. Pray last thing at night before you sleep.
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