Hi doctor I have married 6 months ago. My wife has 3elder and 1younger sisters. Since 6 months my wife is not merged with us and always talks about her family. I think after marriage every lady should change and merge with husband's family. But in my case it is totally different. She always talks on phone with her sisters and parents. I don't know What she is talking but here always some disturbances will happen with me and my parents. I was totally depressed whether I should support my parents or my wife. Recently we talked to her parents about her. Since 20 days she is fine but now same thing is happening. My parents are suffering with diabetes. They need support of me and my wife. But I am not satisfied with this type. I am in big dilemma. please help to solve my problem.

Ms. Stuti PardhePsychologist7yrs exp

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Hello lybrate-user, I completely understand your situation and what you are going through. I understand your expectation that your wife needs to adjust with your family, I agree with that, however, I would suggest talk to her with the understanding that she can definitely communicate with her relatives in addition to try to get acquainted to the new family and the new culture of the family. Is this your arrange marriage. If its your arrange marriage, it will take some time for your wife to completely get adjusted to your family. However, I do understand that she has a responsibility now and she is supposed to balance that. Additionally, it will really help if you both are willing to go through Post Marriage Counseling with a Professional to understand how to have a healthy and successful married life.  

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