Me and my wife are trying to do intercourse. We both equally want it but whenever I try to enter my penis in her vagina i'm unable to insert it. I also do foreplay to arouse her and she also wants the same but it feels like the vagina is small or tight and it is resisting the insertion. We're trying since 2 months but we're not getting the result. And also it is difficult to insert a finger. So, are we following a wrong practice or it is something else?

Dr. Sudhir BholaSexologist24yrs exp

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There can be various reasons why penetration may be challenging or uncomfortable. One possibility is that your wife's vagina may be naturally smaller or tighter, which can make insertion difficult. This condition is known as vaginismus, where the muscles around the vagina involuntarily contract, causing pain or discomfort during penetration. It is also possible that your wife may be experiencing anxiety or stress related to intercourse, which can lead to muscle tension and difficulty with penetration. Additionally, insufficient arousal or lubrication can contribute to discomfort during intercourse. To address these concerns, it is recommended to consult a gynecologist. She will be able to provide a proper diagnosis and suggest appropriate treatment options based on your specific situation. In the meantime, here are a few suggestions that may help improve your experience: 1. Communication: open and honest communication between you and your wife is crucial. Discussing your concerns, fears, and desires can help create a supportive environment and alleviate any anxiety related to intercourse. 2. Foreplay and arousal: engaging in extended foreplay can help increase arousal for both partners. This includes activities such as kissing, touching, oral sex, or using lubricants to enhance comfort and reduce friction during penetration. 3. Relaxation techniques: encouraging relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or taking a warm bath before engaging in sexual activity may help reduce muscle tension and promote a more comfortable experience.  

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