My friend's boy friend is very rich but married now she is in love with him as the girl is not having father so he is taking care of her family he is supporting her financially but he is forcing her to be in liven relationship my friend asked him to take divorce but he says he ll after 3 years first he wants his father to transfer his property to him but he is pressuring her for liven she is upset too much cz id if she denies then he won't support and if she does it ll be shameful what she shall do tell something for her to come over depression and stay calm.

Ms. Sadhana MishraPsychologist4yrs exp

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Your friend needs to evaluate all the pros and cons of whatever she decides to do. Its difficult to understand whether this relationship has any solid grounds. There are two layers to this situation. Layer 1) whether to get into live-in because she loves him and he has promised divorce to his wife after 3yrs. Your friend needs to consider following scenarios. A) he gives divorce and marries her after 3yrs: maybe possible, maybe not. What if he has a kid with his wife in these 3yrs. This will complicate the situation and cause undue pain and dysfunctionality to a family structure. B) he does not divorce his wife after 3years bcos maybe he feels responsible towards her or situation gets too much complicated. What will your friend do after spend 3years in live-in with him. Can she imagine the emotional and physical attachments may make it difficult for her to move on? will she be willing to settle for as a second option all of her life? thinking abt having children may complicate things further. Layer 2) she does not have father so he is financially supporting her family. How and who approved of such an arrangement? what is the role of her mother in this situation? is there no other source of income in the family? what would the family have done to have financial security if this guy would not have been in their life? why is the girl not earning to support the family? is this the only way she can bring money into the house? is money the only binding factor for this relationship? what will happen to them once the rich guy refuses to take care of them any more? ask your friend to reflect on these questions and take a wiser decision. If she can not do it on her own then consult a counsellor. 

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