Hi doc, I am 23 years old boy and I watch too much internet pornography for a couple of years. I think too much about having sexual intercourse with girls and my penis erects when I see girls in short dresses. Almost every night I ejaculate during sleep dreaming that I am having sex with girls. I don't do masturbation yet I left masturbation 6-7 years ago. Having lot of sexual desire for girls make me unable to concentrate on my studies. Please provide me the answer.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi lybrate-user, When a person fails to overcome an addiction they will usually feel" I can't do it. I'm stuck. I'll never break free. In part, they are correct because the most likely reason they failed was their approach was ineffective. With an effective approach, you can break free of your sexual addiction. You are not stuck, although you might feel that you are. Practice Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, non judging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them. Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. ?Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that?s okay, because that?s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing. Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don?t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don?t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It?s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing.  

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