Hi, Doctor, i tend to think too much on very small problems also. I get depressed to frequently. It's fact that I'm facing challenge in every aspect of life, getting backs in MCA, rejection in interviews due to various silly reasons, not getting results as efforts I make every where, I feel like looser, feel like I'm too humble and polite and not made for this society. I have some very good friends who support me, but when we can't communicate few days I feel alone and have nobody whom to talk. Last month I despite giving my 100% not able to achieve my target in my business due to some other reasons. I just broked , and not able to sleep 3 days.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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I think that you are working too hard instead of working smart. If you concentrate on the small details, then you may miss the larger picture. Sit down and work out a strategy to concentrate on the right and useful material to be able to succeed. Failure is only failure, if you do not learn from it. When you learn, it is experience. And success is the contribution of all the failure that is now nothing but experience. I think it was Bill Cosby who said, that he does not know how to succeed but he surely knows how to fail: by trying to please everybody! You need to perform to your satisfaction because you know what you have prepared for. A people-pleaser will bend backwards and get rejected eventually by everyone. Yes, to some extent it is a ?dog-eat-dog world, but to combat that, you have got to be street-smart. Perseverance is the key that has made ordinary people become great. You are still young, and the whole world is out there to conquer. In your generation you have so many options and opportunities that we feel jaded and worn out just looking at them! So, start all over again but this time around plan well, focus on the larger picture and the process. You will get there, eventually. Talk to a counselor, if you need any help and support to pursue this path. The perception of failure is the biggest problem. It can actualize failure and make you dejected. Change your thoughts and you will change who you are. 

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