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Dear sir/madam, I am a married woman with a child and a good husband but fall in love with a single introvert depressed man, who is suffering from clinical depression more than 10 years which is said by psychiatrist. And it is untreated. Before one year he was treated for nerve problem as he is having a pain through out his body and his left hand used to shake. So the previous doctor said he was suffering from perkinson disease. But the psychiatrist said he is not having any nerve problem he is suffering from deep depression. He is having a hobby of aquarium and he is having an small ngo which is his life. And he for this organization he doesn't get married. He is having a habit of run away from home. More than two times he run away from his home without saying anybody anything. And after one or two days he returned back. Any type of pressure or stress, he can't handle and he becomes totally silent and runaway from the situation. But he said he loves me too much, and as we get married from our soul he wants to live with me for ever. But his behaviour and mood is so fragile and sensitive that's why I am getting totally frustrated and unable to take any decision. One day he is good and might be within the next hour he is a completely a different man. Presently more than one year he is not taking the medicine regularly. When ever he doesn't feel well he takes the medicine" depsonil. But not as per the prescription. The doctor gave him another medicine know as licab" but he donot take this medicine. Near about 6 months he is not talking with me. No phone calls no personal talking. Once before six months there were some problem was created and my brother talk with him, that he completely blame me for the relationship. And said now he wants to completely concentrate with his organization work. And when my brother asked him does he want to marry me, he said no. Though we get married from our soul and we are having a physical attachment. When I heard all those things and said him how could he said all those things, he became shameful and became speechless. After those incident whenever I decide to end the relationship, he began to cry, or do something danger incident. I really love him too much but I get too much upset also with his behaviour. My legal husband is very supportive and he understands the situation and my mental condition. He also tried to make him understand, but nothing works. His behaviour sometimes torture me so much that I become totally helpless. I don't know what should I do? he is not ready to go to the doctor. And there is no one in his family who is going to help him. And he is so much stubborn that no one can do anything to him. Please show me the way how can I help him and make him talk to me again as before. One thing is good about him, he's really trying to do a lot of work and established his organization. But the decision what ever he is taking are not good enough. But he will not listen to anyone also. He doesn't want to end the relationship and he doesn't want to take any responsibility also. I don't know what should I do. I get afraid if he make suicide, I don't want to lost him, what should I do? how can I maintain both the relationship smooth. I am now presently in a highly depressed condition. One thing I forgot to mention, he is now 52 years old and I am 35. One question more does he really a patient of depression or he acts in front me. Please let me know and does he still loves me? please guide me. Thanking you radha.

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Dear sir/madam, I am a married woman with a child and a g...
I really understand your concern. But there is only one solution. Have a close personal talk with im and take him to a psychiatrist. You can ask me privately if any medicines need to be prescribed. It cannot be advised in open forum questions as a rule.
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