I have a best frend and in last 1 year we spent most of our time connected and I started to have some feelings for him. One day I confessed how I feel knowing there's nothing from his side. And within a month I came to know he is in a relationship. And now i'm unable to face him. I cannot talk to him like before. He's upset too on losing me bt I feel helpless. We have a very important exam coming in november and all this has affected me very badly. I cannot sleep and concentrate on anything. I was depressed already because I failed in exam and then all this added to it. I feel helpless because I cannot control my feelings. Seeing him with someone else is heart breaking and losing friend too.
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A relationship is only a relationship if both parties want to be in it. Further if he has moved on, you need to too. There are many times we aspire for a particular person and that is okay and normal.But to imagine that that person has to want you too is not the norm. You have to find someone who wants you too and then you are into a desirable relationship that is mutual and reciprocal. Even if you make this relationship work it will be by force and that is not at all welcome, and it wont last. You must keep this in mind. In the meantime you need to break all associations with this person including anything that reminds you of him and socialize with others. Don't jump into another relationship right away because that could be a rebound effect. You must respect other people's choice when initiating friendships. If you are still pining for him, there could be some deep dependency in you that you may need to work out with a counselor.
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Dear friend please understand acceptance of the situation is a great healer. 1. If you had feelings for your friend you must have expressed it at once rather than assuming that he would have felt the same way as you felt. 2. Upon expressing if you find that he didn't feel the same way then he is not meant to be yours. You have someone else who will come up better. 3. You can't blame him for being in another relationship. Because may be he felt a great friend in you and much more than a friend in her. 4. Please do not feel offended because the feeling of love in a relationship should be mutual. You cannot force it out. 5. Yes. You will feel bad seeing him with someone else. Please ignore him and accept the hard truth that he isn't yours. 6. Please meditate to keep yourself calm and to get back to your routines like your exams, sleep etc 7. Just move on he will himself admire you for your strength and courage. 8.do not try to talk to him or be normal with him if it's hurting you. Just fix it in mind he is not yours. Do remember that your self esteem is very important. Ensure that "when you look high upon someone, they should not look down upon you" best wishes.
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It is understandable that you are going through all these emotions. However, you should also come to the realization that your interest in him went unexpressed and you had expectations that this guy would come to like you. Having expectations is a whole different thing from having those expectations met. If you can focus on something that you could move on, it would not be difficult for you. You need counseling and if you are feeling depressed for more than 2 weeks now with other co-occurring symptoms, I suggest that you consult a psychiatrist. Look forward to hearing from you. If you need help with booking an appointment online with me on this website either text, an appointment for a confidential and private consultation you may do so by contacting the help desk of Lybrate.
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You can control your feelings and emotions. You have to go for cognitive therapy.
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