I've been dating this guy for more than 6 months and got to know about his anxiety issue in the 5th month. I've been very supportive of him and he takes medication like anti depressants and meeting with physiatrist/counselor. He's been in Mumbai for the last month or so. Not sure if I should get involved since on valentines day he said at the end of the day he likes being independent. His work got affected and he's looking out again. So told him he's just going through a phase. We chat once in a while to check on each other n the last time he told me not to worry about him. But never forgets to add how much he appreciates everything I do. I'm 34 and he's 35. But this is the first time I've ever seriously dated someone. Should I let go or continue to be with him?

Dr. Sunil GuptaPsychiatrist12yrs exp

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Dear Ms. lybrate-user, I went through your query in detail and can undertsand the dilemma that you must be facing. I feel that the fact that your boy friends is seeking treatment for anxiety/depression should not have a bearing on your decision. Rather, the decision should be based on the fact whether both of you want it to succed equally. If your boy friend is not ready to commit to the relationship, continuing with a one sided relationship will only add to your frustration. We all as human beings want our partners to be appreciative and caring. In case we do not get the due attention from them, it hurts us. And to continously face same things can only lead to further cashes. So, the best way out is to talk frankly with him about the future of your relationship. If he is ready to continue and give his best to help the relationship work, go ahead and give your best. If not, its time to move on in life. I do hope I was able to clear some of the confusion for you. Best wishes.  

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