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Asked for female, 25 years old from Hailakandi
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Dr. The thing is I have been living alone for about 8 year alone far from my family. I visit them once a year for like 2 or 3 weeks. I am not married yet but I am in a relationship since 2009. At the beginning everything was going well with him and my family too. But now I do not want to be with him. It is being 3 years almost since I lost my feelings for him. I could not break up with him because my mom wants me to merry him as soon as possible. Last year I met a man. And I had an affair with him cause I wanted to be happy. I wanted someone whom I want. He never told me that he was married but I found it latter that hr is married and have two kids. But I could not leave him. I just love him so much. Even from this relationship with him o could not find happiness and all this marrying someone else and being in love with someone I can never get and family forcing me to get married is just killing me inside. I am so sure that I will never live a happy life if I merry the one my mom wants me to. But I never do anything my mom do not want to. Even doing a teaching course is what my parents wanted me to do. I never wanted to be a teacher. But I am doing this for my parents. What I feel is that my life is falling apart. I never deserve to have what I want. And I have changed a lot. I have being so careless about everything even to my self. I do not want to eat, I do not want to see people and have be with them I do not want to have fun. I just love being alone in my room. Being aline makes me more comfortable than being with people. My mom pointed out that I can not control my anger now and I know that too. I get emotional with simple simple thing and I cry alot. I do not know why. Getting angry and being sad always. I just get these feeling out nowhere. It is like I know nothing about my self. I can not control me. The one I had an affair with also love so dearly. I know that and that is the reason ge could not tell me about his marriage. He tried to tell me about it later but I did not believe him aa it is something I never wanted to believe. But now everything is in front of me but I can not leave him and he do not want ro leave me too. I could merry him as his second wife too but my family will never alow it as it will bring bad names to my family and they say that once a cheater always a cheater and I do not believe this. I know this change in my behaviour is not a good thing. But I can not and I could not change it. Another thing is that I never share my feelings with others cause in my heart I believe that no one understands me. No one will ever understand me. Dr. Could you help me or give me some suggestions that I could change my self and be like a happy girl I was before. Thank you.

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MD - Psychiatry, Diploma in Tuberculosis...read more

Psychiatrist•Ghaziabad
Try to note down your priority and expectation of your life. Than try to fulfill your desire urself. No other person can understand you better than urself. Your current relation is based on false information. So try to avoid it. Start fresh life with any new life partner. Try to remain busy. Enjoy any small good things.
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Psychologist•Lucknow
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Ask here what is the reason behind her decision of staying away from home? is it because you will press for marriage or she won't have freedom that she can have otherwise? she may have friends or boyfriend there that she doesn't want to come back? if growth opportunities are good there let her do job there and one of you can go and stay with her. It's been 10 years she is away and therefore is not that home sick and dependant. Let her do job where ever she wants to. If you really want her back d...more
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Psychologist•Coimbatore
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Hi lybrate-user! I am really sorry to hear this from you, but what to do everything is over, you have to keep going on and on right, at least till when you are capable of earning you need to work, whether you like that job or not, you have got to save some amount for your future, if you have saved enough then, not a problem, but if you haven't sufficient, then definitely you need to. Try to make some good friends, when you are sure enough that they are really worthy then you can share your emoti...more
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Alternative Medicine Specialist•Chandigarh
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Dear lybrate-user, I am glad that inspite of your health limitations, you have been able to achieve so very well in education. Replacement of long bones like femur is a big thing to talk of. But, we surely can make the old healed fractures strong to support you for a healthy life. Do not lose heart. A lot can be done. Just send your X-ray pre.
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Psychologist•Delhi
Hello lybrate-user.
You need to listen to KATY PERRY'S FIREWORK SONG.
1.If it is because of people around you then remember this.
Some people really suck. Ignore them.
Don't hate yourself. Sometimes life brings you down so that you can learn how to bring yourself up. Remember that hard work will always pay of if not now later so trust your work. Study because the future is for the people who show commitment.
STILL IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO LOOSE YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS PLEASE CON...more
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Psychiatrist•Akola
Hello. Its indeed a very delicate situation & you do need some expert medical help. The real problem here is your residual feelings of attraction towards him which are making you possessive. You also need to understand here that if your ex managed to move forward in his life; even you can also successfully move forward in life despite keeping your feelings of love for him. At present, the simplest advice I can give is start keeping a diary & start writing your thoughts multiple times a day espec...more
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Psychiatrist•Chennai
You seem to be suffering from Borderline Personality or Emotionally unstable personality. The cause is unknown but research suggests there is an interaction between adverse life events and genetic factors. Neurobiological research suggests that abnormalities in the frontolimbic networks are associated with many of the symptoms

There is a pattern of sometimes rapid fluctuation from periods of confidence to despair, with fear of abandonment and rejection. There is a particularly strong tenden...more
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Hi. I am psychiatrist practicing sexology. As per my knowledge is concerned. Length of flaccid Penis does not matter. It varies with time to time .nd situations. Unless it is not less than 3 cm when erected .it is said to normal Penis by enlarge otherwise it is called as micropenis. So unless if it is not micropenis. U need not to worry. Temperature stress exertion excitement affect erection of Penis rather than length of flaccid Penis. Thank u.
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General Physician•Noida
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Get your Thyroid function test done and review with reports

This problem can be solved by meditation

i can give you address of Rajyoga meditation center near your house (this is free of cost)

Tell me name your city than i will give you address of centre

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Please do pranayam. Spend time with small children. Try to be a leader. Not follower. Give lecture to some body at home for a few minutes. If nobody then just think someone is listening. Do talk. Talk to yourself positively for ten minutes. Wear clean clothes and eat healthy homemade food. Plan your activity for each day and week in advance. If studying then try to top in any one subject. Pray every day.
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