Hello doctor, Am 9 month pregnant. Its my 2nd marriage. Still last month I don?t have any family support. Somehow I managed and now my parents accepted me. My husband took care of me very well. When my 7th month started I found some changes in his activities. I found that he is having affair with his old college mate. She is a person who unsatisfied with her family life. She is having 2 female kids. After 15 years back she came back to my husband life. My husband mind get distracted. He totally become mad. When she enter he is not at all speaking to me. She knows well that am pregnant. But as her wish she is dragging my husband. She is living in abroad. She came india to meet my husband. Luckily, there is no physical relationship between them. She went again to her place. Now problem is he forget my things. He is thinking her as his wife. He is not at all spending any money for my pregnancy. 2 time I warned her to stop her illegal things. She used to speak with my husband night times. She clearly mentioning she can not come out from her family life. She is very rich. Manytimes she sent money to my husband. I hate all this unwanted things. Am totally depressed. I could?t take this as simple. She is seducing him very cheap manner. They both are sharing their nude pictures. My husband always forcing her to send her photos before sleep. My husband thinking that I don?t know anything much. Just 4 days back he told, I could?t forget her. Am speaking to her as a friend. There is nothing between us more than this. But yesterday my husband sent his lower nude picture to her. Am crying very badly. He is taking some steps to moving to her place. He told me that, he will not go. I guess he is playing double game with me and her. Still now he wants her in his life. He don?t care about me and my delivery. He is saying ?you were wanted baby from me. I gave you. Live with that. Don?t call me for delivery and other functions. I done what you want. Don?t bother me anymore?. Doctor, I just keeping my feelings inside me. I did?t ask anything to him. Because its my life. I know he is crossing moral ethics. I elly need him to come for my delivery. This is my last hope. I hope that, once he see our baby there is a chance to change in his mind. Doctor please advice me to handle him. Still this second they both are keep chatting. He is going extreme crazy which spoiling my family life. I want him back in my life. Is there is any possible after child birth his mind will change? Please say best suggestion to me.
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Its unfortunate that you are having to go through such difficult times during your pregnancy. At this point, please take care of yourself as your delivery is nearing. I would recommend you to seek help of a therapist who could advise you about how you can deal with this stress. You have to keep yourself physically and mentally (emotionally) fit for your baby.
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Hello don't worry he will come back to u.after delivery he will realize. Don't take any stress. Now you care urself and your baby. Pregnancy can lead to greater intimacy, but it also can trigger less pleasant changes in a relationship, including infidelity. “It’s very important for women to be aware that this is a critical time and to be vigilant, unexplained absences, strange phone calls, spending more time “at work,” less interest in sex and a greater focus on his appearance. At the same time, you have to be aware that hormones may be affecting your thoughts and emotions, Rather than jumping to conclusions alone, process your feelings with a trusted confidante outside the family. If a certain behavior seems suspect, ask questions rather than accuse when broaching the subject. “Your first approach may be to ask your partner if he can explain. Despite the challenges pregnancy brings to a relationship, infidelity is not inevitable. One thing you can do is sit down with your partner as early as possible in the pregnancy to discuss what your plans might be if your sexual interest drops. “If you say, ‘I really want to talk about our options if I don’t feeling like having sex,’ believe me, he’s going to pay attention, And sex doesn’t have to involve intercourse. “Experiencing sexual release through touch, mouth or massage speaks very powerfully to men,“Encourage him by telling him he’s going to be a great father.” And get him involved in the pregnancy and planning for a baby, focusing on his skills. While he may not want to discuss nursery colors, he may want to build a crib. Difficult as it may feel, actively preventing or addressing the issue can strengthen a relationship. “Infidelity is not a death knell; it’s often just a wake-up call,” so everything will be fine after your delivery. Take care.
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