I am searching for jobs. I am doctorate, while searching jobs I am rejected for being highly qualified and cannot opt for higher jobs as I dont have good reco from my PI. Had a terrible fight with my PI, he was supporting my inefficient and liar seniors. I could not prove their inefficient and had to take a back unnecessarily. I want o move forward but just bcoz I did not respect my snrs did not get good papers and now can not apply for higher scholarships. As I am not having any job no one wants to marry me either. Just going under depression. Now having a year gap. Feel like committing suicide. What is the remedy?
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Suicide is not remedy and life is just too precious to waste it away for such a reason. Life is difficult normally and if challenges are tough so be it. With others' support anything can be resolved. I thi8nk that your actions during yoru academic years were obviously not in good taste and not well thought out. You have to prove to those seniors and as well as to yourself that you will and can still conquer the world with determination and persistence. But you need the help of others around you e.g. Family, relatives, friends, and colleagues. Take one thing at a time and don't pile on all the problems at one time to resolve. For the depression you can do some of the following: You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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Dear lybrate-user, Since your research carrier is in hold, why not try some other like teaching as carrier. This may be done instead of planning for marriage. Though you are well qualified, you fought with PI. Why should you prove others as inefficient instead of proving you as efficient. This I feel, may be a grandiose delusion in hypo-manic phase of a bipolar disorder. Now you may be in a depressive phase of the same disorder. However, jot down your mood status monthly for few years. Request your parents and friends also to add their inputs. With that, please consult a psychiatrist and get diagnosed. If it is a bipolar disorder, mood stabilizer for few years will add to your quality of life. All the best.
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You need to approach the problem very intelligently and also need a psychiatric help to fight depression. You get a good reference from some good persons when applying for jobs and try your luck and you will succeed
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