Sir I am not able to talk any unknown person. I am not able to talk face to face and I fell shy to see in others eyes.in study when teacher asked any question to me then my mind get fully blocked and my body started vibrate and whatever I want to say that correct words does not come out. I am very fearful person from darkness. I fell somebody coming behind me. Sir I have done thyroid test but it is normal. But LFT test is not normal. Sgot. 200 Sgpt. 210 Please suggest me what I have to do. Thank you sir.

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Hi, You may have social Anxiety. You can overcome it with psychotherapy/counseling. Everyone has a little bit of social fear. Without it, you would never learn how to conduct yourself in a socially appropriate manner. It's a little bit of social anxiety that ensures we don't talk to dangerous people, or say inappropriate things to those we're trying to impress. Even the most social people have a small amount of fear in them, and that social anxiety helps them maintain a more positive appearance. But when that anxiety becomes too strong, or you start to fear the anxiety itself, you may have developed social phobia. Social phobia is a diagnosable anxiety disorder, and one that can benefit from treatments designed to fight these social fears. Start Strong Any time you do talk to someone, don't start quietly and expect yourself to gain momentum over time. Start strong. Those that do public speaking find that when they start strong they get into a groove. It's the same with most social environments. When you're out there, starting strong, you're more likely to get comfortable fast. Talk to Anyone You're Comfortable With You may not be comfortable in social situations yet, but you probably encounter people speaking to you regularly. Make sure you're always talking back. For example, when the coffee shop employee asks you how your day is, tell them your day is great and make sure you ask them how their day was. It's a little change, but it will get you used to talking. Learn Positive Thinking/Talking Social anxiety has a tendency to make people sound more negative, both due to some of the effects of shyness and the overall view of social situations. Try to learn to talk positively, because positivity attracts friendliness, which attracts less negative emotions. Strategies to improve positive thinking include faking positivity all day until you naturally pick up on it, writing out 10 positive things that happened each day in a journal, and spending time with more positive people. Get a Best Friend Studies have shown that those that know they're supported by someone else have much more confidence. While of course meeting people is difficult, if you have someone you like and can talk to, try to really bond with them. The more you feel supported by them, the more you should be a bit more confident when you're out ? even when they're not with you. Exercise Exercise has a profound effect on anxiety, and is a valuable tool for reducing social anxiety. Exercise releases neurotransmitters in the brain that improve mood and relaxation, while simultaneously tiring out some of your body so your anxiety symptoms are less severe. If you're not exercising yet, you should be, because the effects on mental health are substantial. Keep Going After Panic This can be tough, but it's important. If you have a panic attack in a social situation, one of the most important things for you to do is get up when it's over and keep trying. It may sound strange or difficult, but fear of panic and anxiety creates more panic and anxiety, and leaving a social situation when you have anxiety reinforces the fear. Ideally, you need to get up once the panic attack is over and try to get back to the social life, no matter how hard it feels. Try Talking on Vacation to Practice Finally, while it's not a fool proof plan, a big part of the fear comes from being in a location where you may know people or see them again. That's why you may want to consider trying many of these strategies on a vacation in a city further away that you have no connection to. Many people find that they actually manage to overcome many of their social anxiety symptoms when they are far enough from home that they don't care about the outcome of discussions. See if you can possibly take a long vacation so that you're not quite as concerned about judgment from others. Social anxiety is a serious problem, which is why self-help for social anxiety is so valuable. Rest assured that social phobia is a very treatable condition ? in fact, it has an extremely high treatment outcome. It just takes some time and effort to get everything going. If you haven't yet, make sure you take my anxiety test now. You'll get a better idea of what causes some of your social anxiety, and tips that can help you cure it. Consult with me for full treatment. All the best. 

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