Dear concern, I am a 25 year old guy having some some problem related to my mental health, Actually I am unable to control my mood and emotions. I do not when and why I become violent or sometime fell like alone in the world. Please help.

Ms. Juhi ParasharPsychologist4yrs exp

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Hi lybrate-user, You may be having difficulty in regulating your emotions. Although I can provide you few solutions to manage it well, but its necessary to know the underlying cause of it to eliminate it completely. Consult psychologist for same. When your body experiences intense emotions, you may enter the body?s ?fight or flight? mode. This response activates your sympathetic nervous system by sending adrenaline and other chemicals racing through your body, raising your heart rate, making your breathing shallower, and causing your muscles to feel tight and tense. Breathing deeply and evenly will help you feel calmer and will provide much-needed oxygen to your body, helping you relax. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your abdomen below your rib cage. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose for a count of 4. Feel your lungs and abdomen expand as you fill them with air. Hold the breath for 1 or 2 seconds, then slowly release the breath through your mouth. Aim for 6-10 deep breaths per minute. If a full 4-count is difficult for you, you can start with a 2-count and work your way up with practice. Just try to make your breaths as deep and even as you can Try progressive muscle relaxation. Progressive muscle relaxation, or PMR, can help you calm down by systematically tensing and releasing your muscles in groups. It?s a good way to relieve stress and tension. PMR can also help you learn to recognize the signs of physical tension in your body If you can, give yourself 15 minutes in a quiet, relaxing environment. If you can?t find this, though, you can do a few PMR techniques even while you sit at your desk. Sit and make yourself comfortable. Loosen any tight clothing. Take deep, cleansing breaths. You can start at your forehead and work your way down, or start at your toes and work your way up. In this example, we?ll start at the toes. Begin by curling your toes as tightly as you can. Hold this tension for 5 seconds, then relax. Enjoy the relaxing sensations for 15 seconds, then move to the next group of muscles. Tighten your calves by pulling your toes toward your face as hard as you can. Hold the tension for 5 seconds, then relax. Again, allow yourself to relax for 15 seconds, then move on. Continue tensing each group of muscles for 5 seconds, then releasing them. Take a 15-second break in between each group, noticing what it feels like when that tension is released. Progress through each of the following groups: toes, feet, thighs, hips and buttocks, stomach, back, shoulders, upper arms, forearms, hands, lips, eyes, forehead. If you don?t have time to tense and relax all the groups, focus on the ones in your face. Relaxing your facial muscles can ease feelings of stress. Studies have even shown that relaxing your muscles and smiling can make you feel happier and calmer. Write down the evidence which supports or contradicts the thought that produced the emotion. Start connecting the dots about why you reacted the way you did. When you begin to think about it, you might realize that since nobody gets along well with this particular boss, he can't afford to actually fire anyone, because the department is too short-staffed. For example, you may have let slip something that you should not have said which angered him, but which it is too late to retract. His reaction at lunch may not be what you originally thought it was. Ask yourself if this thing would matter to you 1 year down the line? Is it worth spending your energy on? 

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