I wanted to be an actress now wherever I go I fall in love with men who resemble some actors unintentionally without reciprocation and I can't do any work except thinking about them this is a repeated pattern.I won't like ordinary men so I am still single, I am 36.Victim of abuse by father n domestic violence n ill treatment by relatives n classmates. Could not study after graduation. Suffer homelessness and on injection of clopixol depot fortnight.Women generally dislike me men try to take advantage please suggest proper rehabilitation center n cure.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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I think your aspiration to become an actress had failed but you may be still indulging in the fantasy of that failed desire by at least wanting to be in love with a celebrity in the film industry. Your adulation of the celebrity is to identify with their achievements and a desire to own them. These are additive in nature; to the personality and the glamour they enjoy. This failure can be very disturbing. Together with that the childhood abuse and the ill-treatment by others in life has been disquieting at the least. This has all contributed to the weight gain and to the mental disturbance. Now it is important to do the right thing first, for the mental illness, and to deal with the pain of all the abuse. Then the understanding of love and the dearth of it in your life has to be considered and the distortions cleared. It is possible that you might be mixing up sex with love, and innocuously offering it seeking love but the men take advantage of this need and hunger of yours failing to recognize the actual deprivation. You may unwittingly use seduction with males, who will fall gullibly to the guile, but that this same thing may invite the disapproval and disdain of the female companions. All this can get very complicated, if not properly understood. Your medical treatment must be supported by some psychotherapy to adequately address all the psychosocial aspects of your situation. Ideally, you should spend time in a rehabilitation center, and in residential settings to work out these issues in an intense one-to-one treatment. I have no idea of any such center in my experience so far. However, I suggest that you do the next best thing, by seeking help in an outpatient setting. I recommend you work with a female therapist before transferring to a male therapist, ideally and eventually, for a satisfactory recovery. 

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