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My son is 4 months old and I feel m a terrible mother bcoz I get frustrated sometimes with his constant crying n feeding distractions. I think I shud give him to his grandmother (Nani) who lives in different state. She loves him so so much and has told me so many times to focus on my career n leave the child to her place. But at the same time I am overwhelmed with so much guilt. And I love my son so much. But all I am doing is for him. And I cannot trust any other person for childcare other than his grandmother. What should I do. Please help.

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You are going through a usual cycle of guilt and love that all mothers go through. Take it easy on yrslf. Be surrounded by loved ones and talk to them. You can get back to your work n career without guilt. Call your mother over for sometime till you learn to balance work n home. Don’t expect too much from yralf and set your priorities. Non of us are super humans to be able to balance work and family with ease. It always will take efforts and be prepared for it. Remember though grandparents can love the child unconditionally they cannot substitute the child’s own parents. Take the day as it comes n enjoy his childhood. Take time out for yralf n go out with years friends. A happy mom is all a child needs.
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