I have huge anger. I always get angry on little things. My anger is out of control. When I become angry I become very egoistic very negative. My mood always happens change. When I hate a person I always feel negative for that person like he is bad he is untreatable he dislike me etc. Those are my problem science childhood. Please give me solution.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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Anger is a good feeling. The only problem is that you must express it appropriately. None of the feelings are to be controlled. The way you express them is the issue. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands, scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. Now, it is also wise to find out why you get angry: is it too fast, is it too high, or is it without provocation? These will help you to determine whether it is worth getting angry at all, in some instances. Also if you know the cause for this anger from childhood, then there is a good approach to really handle even childhood anger even now. These can be discussed with a counselor, in case you are still having problems. 

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