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Dear sir / madam, 1. A 51 year old single introvert man. First time fall in love at the age of 48 with a married woman with a child. And he married that woman secretly, not in front the society. But after one year when the relationship came in front the society, as he lost his image he became totally silent and disturb. He donot try to contact that woman. But he was anxious to know about her whereabouts. 2. He is a man who talks with people very calmly and only few words. He is a man of few words. He is very careless about his daily needs. 3. He is very punctual about his work, and too much determined to his goal. 4. He has no good relationship with his other relatives. He doesn't take any bodies help, and too much introvert person. 5. His behaviour heart's people those who love him. But he is careless about it. If somebody ask him any personal questions he becomes totally silent. And avoids him. 6. This person is having a small ngo which is not running in a good position and he is trying his level best for its improvement. But he is careless about the relationship. 7. When from the woman side her relatives asked about there relationship, he said 90% was done all by the woman and he is responsible only 10%. But as he loves her child very much, so he doesn't want to cut the relationship. He blames the woman for everything in front her relative. 8. When that woman asked the man what did he said, are everything true, he became ashamed and speechless. She did not informed anybody about there secret marriage. And from that day that man became totally silent. But he is trying his level best for the improvement of his organization. 9. One or two friends he was having with whom previously he talk about the relationship, but now he totally stop talking on this topic. 10. He do not respond to phone calls, and remain silent. 11. He is too much involved with the child of that woman. 12. Now when that woman get frustrated with the relationship and ask him that she wants to cut the relationship, from all the side he begin to cry, or do something miserable. 13. He doesn't want to cut the total relationship and he doesn't want to grant the relationship also. 14. When the woman plea let me know clearly what do you want so that I can set my mind and live my life, he doesn't says anything just silent and acts as if the woman is not keeping her promise which they took while they married secretly. 15. Whenever he gets stressed this man go out of his home open. Three times he had done this before and after one or two days he returned home again. Without saying anybody anything. Last time police was informed. 16. He was in treatment for 5 to 6 years of nerve problem, as his left hand shakes slightly. But now his hand shakes more frequently. Before one year for this problem he went to the psychiatrist and the doctor said he is having no nerve problem, he is suffering from heavy depression. And he needs proper treatment. But after three times he stopped going to the doctor, now sometime he take the medicine of depression and sometimes not. 17. He always go to the doctor with that lady, but now as there the relationship is not present might be he is not ready to go to the doctor. Now please say me doctor what type of character is this man. Does he is really suffering from depression? what should the woman do? what is going to happen with this person if the woman leave him? does the man still loves that woman? or how should the woman tolerate his behaviour, one day he seems too good and within the next hour he might be treble. But he is doing his office, doing all the work of his organization. But not atall caring about the relationship, but when the woman wants to end the relationship, he behave madly. Please answer me and advice me what should the woman do? still the woman loves that man a lot. I am that unfortunate woman. And he is not ready to marry to any other woman also. He is very careless about his life also. But very particular about his organization.

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Having read all your points, I feel he must come to a psychiatrist and also a psychologist. If there is no other problem both can enter marriage openly and live as husband and wife.
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