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Hiii doctor After my breakup which happened 3 years back I have lost interest in things, it's not that I like him today but m not happy single I tried dating someone else dint work. Self confidence has reduced what should I do I even feel out of place many times where ever I go.

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The end of a relationship often feels like the end of the world. After all the time and energy you have invested in it, it is very painful when it gets over. Keep in mind that life is full of ups and downs; nothing is permanent. The pain you feel today will go away with time. Give yourself time to heal. Give time, time. In the meanwhile don't isolate yourself from your friends and family. Confide in someone you are comfortable with. Make a list of life goals, and plan how to achieve them. Relationships are an important part of your life, but they are not everything. Spend time with those close to you, indulge in some enjoyable activities. Keep yourself busy. Slowly you will see that there is a lot to life. However if you are feeling suicidal, consult a psychiatrist immediately. Don't wait to feel worse. You can consult me for further management if required.
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Hi dear. Pain of breakup is very hard to carry. Specially when past memories are haunting us due to our loneliness. If that was your first relationship and it went for sufficiently long period then it will lead to even more pain. What I can see from your message is that you are not getting a new person with whom you can fall in love with and have a healthy relationship. Due to this previous breakup is giving more pain by causing loneliness. You have given your tries to make new relations but it also did not work. This has reduced your self-confidence and made you feel incapable of forming a relationship. Your current feelings are quite natural in thia state of mind. When we see other people around busy in happy relationships, our loneliness reminds us of our weaknesses and limitations. If your overall self-confidence has been effected, and you are not able to concentrate on any work then you must consult a clinical psychologist asap. But if you only feel lack of ability in context of relationships, then you must first feel good about yourself and see how you are a girl-in-demand around your circle. Believe me, its just your perception that you are not able to sustain a relation because you miss your bf or may be you think previous relation was in some way better than this lonliness. You still have the ability to attract guys and many guys would love to be in a relationship with you. You need to come out of this mental state that you can not be in a relationship and work on makjng new relations and try new guys without losing courage. One or the other guy would definitely fall for you and you will be able to have a successful relationship.
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