Whenever things goes against my wish I get angry and want to kill that person. What to do.
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I understand that you get angry when things go against you but to want to kill at that time is grossly wrong. You must check out where this level and kind of anger comes from. I suspect it is from your childhood. You should meet with a counselor and do some anger management classes. Anger should be expressed always but in appropriate ways only. Anyway, you must do vigorous exercise everyday and that will expend the energy and leave you with the memory to deal with. You will also need to check whether you are acting angry when you are really scared. In that case you are escalating anger over the fear to cover it up. This will not deal with the fear and you will need to investigate that and deal with that instead. It is not advisable to ?ruminate? over this feeling as it will feed into an impulse and you may lose control over that and do something inappropriate. None of the feelings are to be controlled. The way you express them has to be appropriate. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands; scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. All feelings must be expressed without exception.
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