Hi I am 33 years old, DOM -12/2009, in starting days me and my wife were enjoying the sexual life, but after delivery my wife having Zero interest in sex. I am very upset when ever I request her, she refuse it. After so many times if I request her, she agree, now I am very quickly discharge also. I am shame on very self also. Some time I thought I kill my self due to frustration. I having a son his age is 2+. Please advice me what should I do. I am very depress.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist47yrs exp

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Some women may get put off by sex after a delivery. You need to be gentle with her and gradually coax her back into sexual union. Anyway since you have probably harassed her and she has finally agreed, I hope it is a permanent solution. If not please visit a marriage counselor and get some help. That person may recommend a sexologist, if necessary. I still advise you to be gentle with her and gradually induce the sexual desire by simple physical contact but approaching the erogenous zones very subtly. If done with unhurried and soft stroking she could be seduced back to those hey days early in your marriage. You can also openly discuss what is happening with her, and discuss these matters with the counselor too. Your discharge will be premature because of the long and forced abstinence but if you do it a second time soon, there will be a delayed discharge and orgasm. Now I do you know, if your wife has ever experienced orgasm, ever? I strongly suspect that she may not have and that she may have been brought many times to that tipping point but left high and dry because you have already had yours by that time! the reason I say this is that if she had, she would have wanted it more and may not have gone off of sex so easily. Now with your early ejaculation, she may never experience sufficient gratification. This is something for you to explore with a sexologist and learn some skillful means of bringing her close to and satisfying her till orgasmic fulfillment. You will have a different spouse altogether, in my opinion. So if you are ashamed for whatever reason, then this is something that will bring a huge blessing to your relationship with your wife to both your satisfaction. If you want to kill yourself for this reason without knowing all the facts, you are certainly not acting like an educated person. Take my advice and go fulfill her and do justice to meet her needs in all respects but especially in the sexual arena! you will want to live much longer with the fine times that are guaranteed ahead! 

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