I talk only little to people. I do not why I am not interested to speak like others. I feel that I do not want to talk to anyone. But I want to change my habit please help or give suggestions.
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Hi lybrate-user, welcome to Lybrate. So, it seems either that you are an introvert i. E shy to approach people and prefer to keep to yourself or is it sudden change that now you are not interested to talk to anyone. If it is second, consult me for psychotherapy. If its the former here are ways you can overcome and deal with it: Push yourself a little bit. Pushing yourself a little bit past your comfort zone can help you learn new things and accomplish things you hadn?t thought possible. Becoming comfortable with getting outside your comfort zone will help you embrace your more extroverted traits, such as enjoying novelty. Don?t push yourself too far, though -- and take your time. Too much extension past your comfort zone creates more anxiety than is helpful, and your performance will plummet. Try to start small. For example, if you?re usually a quiet steak-and-potatoes-for-dinner person, jumping straight to eating still-beating cobra hearts in front of a crowd probably isn?t a good idea. Try a step that?s just slightly outside your comfort zone, such as going for sushi with a friend and trying a roll you?ve never had before. Get comfortable with challenging yourself. Set yourself a challenge to try one new thing per week (or whatever level works for you) so that you?re regularly committed to change. One of the benefits of pushing yourself just past your comfort zone is that you will become accustomed to the optimal anxiety that creates. As you teach your brain to embrace novelty, trying new things will become less uncomfortable. Acknowledge that you may be uncomfortable with these challenges, especially at first. The point is not to immediately feel great about trying things that may be new to you. The point is to acknowledge to yourself that you?re up to learn new things. Plan ahead for group interactions. When you know that you will be in public or leading an activity or a meeting, or when you will be in a large group of people, prepare and organize your thoughts. This will reduce anxiety and stress Flex your social skills. A common myth is that extroverts are ?better? at socializing with others than introverts. This isn?t really true. However, others may initially perceive extroversion as more positive because extroverts tend to seek out interactions with others. Challenge yourself to seek out at least one interaction in the next social situation you are in. Speak to one person at a party. It may seem overwhelming to try to ?work the room? like a strong extrovert might. Instead, plan to speak to one person. Introduce yourself by saying something like, ?I don?t think we?ve met, I?m?.? Look for the other ?wallflowers.? They may be introverted, or they may just be shy. Saying hi to them may be the beginning of a great friendship, but you won?t know until you try. Embrace your vulnerability. If you?re uncomfortable approaching strangers, start off with that! Making a humorous comment about your nervousness -- e. G. ?I never know how to break the ice at these things? -- can help defuse tension and encourage the other person to engage with you. Plan a few pieces of ?chat?. Introverts generally like to plan ahead, so prepare a few conversation-starters for the next time you?re out. These don?t have to be corny or creepy. Try open-ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer. For example, ?Tell me about what you do? or ?What is your favorite thing to do around here?? People enjoy talking about themselves, and open-ended questions invite them to engage with you. Look and act approachable. Smile and make eye contact" Fake it till you make it" - is a good motto. Keep pretending to be confident and after awhile you will find that you really are. Remember though that pushing yourself too hard into situations you don't feel comfortable will just reinforce the problem. Shyness and social anxiety is a behaviorally learned trait and you'll need to ease into things at a semi-comfortable rate. Volunteer or join a club or social group! Join a club you are interested in and you'll meet other people with common interests. This is a great way to make friends. Just know that almost everyone is shy to some extent. The difference is the degree of shyness. You can boost your confidence through practicing conversation skills and having new topics to discuss. Give yourself lots of time to talk. Speaking slowly gives you more time to think about what to say, as well as often adding weight to your words. Make a list of things you love about yourself and post it on your wall. It may strike up some confidence before leaving the door. Overcome stage fright by imagining you are someone else, such as a favorite celebrity you admire. Picture yourself as that person until you feel comfortable onstage. Remember that shyness is an emotion, not a permanent personality trait. You have the power to change your feelings of shyness through desire and actions. Fear and excitement share the same chemistry, adrenaline. If you focus on the positive aspects of the event, speech, activity, etc. And think of your tension as anticipation, you can flip your fears over into a thrill that makes you enjoy being outgoing. Many outgoing, eloquent people go into public situations with as much tension as you do but they interpret it as excitement and share it with others. Stage fright can vanish into a stellar performance when you make that switch in what you think the feeling is. Say" yes" to more things. At first it will be difficult. Start with small things, like saying hi to a classmate or something; the thing is that when you accept to do thing you don't often do, you can get so many cool moments. Plus, you'll feel better about yourself because you were brave enough to do it. There's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either! All the best. Consult for any guidance.
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