Hi My husband told me he wants to have sex with another female how should I react .Please help

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Call me conservative if you will, but don? t allow it. Some men want to get away with crime. There is nothing to consider about this: are you comfortable with this proposition? there is a lot of danger in this whole adventure: what if the other woman falls irreversibly in love with your husband, then what will you do? or your husband could fall in love with her more than with you, then how will you like it? would you want women to be used and misused like this? where is your self-respect in all this and that of woman in general? if you concede in this and he wants more of something else, then how will you react? give him an inch and he will take a yard. You are still young and already he feels infidelity, with permission! what will be the state of this union in some time? are you not good enough for him now itself? I know I have raised more questions than answers but they are meant to be rhetoric. So react with shock and disbelief and with no permission at all. The fact that you are considering it, gives him hope and I am sure he will continue to persuade you and even threaten you so that you finally concede. Have you neglected yourself for him to want this? you are a little over-weight and he can use that to leverage you for the permission. Not that your weight should be used in this fashion as an excuse, but you must also work at the marriage and your grooming to remain attractive and desirable.

Saul Pereira · Accepted Answer

Call me conservative if you will, but don? t allow it. Some men want to get away with crime. There is nothing to consider about this: are you comfortable with this proposition? there is a lot of danger in this whole adventure: what if the other woman falls irreversibly in love with your husband, then what will you do? or your husband could fall in love with her more than with you, then how will you like it? would you want women to be used and misused like this? where is your self-respect in all this and that of woman in general? if you concede in this and he wants more of something else, then how will you react? give him an inch and he will take a yard. You are still young and already he feels infidelity, with permission! what will be the state of this union in some time? are you not good enough for him now itself? I know I have raised more questions than answers but they are meant to be rhetoric. So react with shock and disbelief and with no permission at all. The fact that you are considering it, gives him hope and I am sure he will continue to persuade you and even threaten you so that you finally concede. Have you neglected yourself for him to want this? you are a little over-weight and he can use that to leverage you for the permission. Not that your weight should be used in this fashion as an excuse, but you must also work at the marriage and your grooming to remain attractive and desirable.

K V Anand · Answer

Dear , I suggest you never allow that. That is not suitable for an indian couple and society. Such requests may increase in numbers if you allow now. Rebel with your husband. Take care.

Sumit Periwal · Answer

You must be angry. You should ask him if he is joking or he is serious? I hope for you that he is joking.

Naresh Vadlamani · Answer

React in a way you feel good about your decision. If you think your love and faith in him is betrayed, react in a negative way so that it will desist him from such adventurous feeelings in the future. If you feel he has already betrayed you, then think about the advantageous and disadvantageous of staying with him. Ask the same question to your husband i. E if you want to sleep with someone, and ask him how he should react.

Aravinda Jawali · Answer

This is a sensitive issue between you two. I advise you not to violently react, good that you have not that. You find out what is the reason. That might be a tip of an iceberg and you need professional help so also your husband. Please get counselling. Meanwhile I will be available to consult after a fortnight.

Samiksha Jain · Answer

Please find out if he means it or it was just to pull your leg and trouble you. How is your own sex life with him? are you ok to have him sex outside or you have objections? there will be pros and cons of each choice. Please click on private chat if you are interested in more detail.

Ajay Vashishtha · Answer

Give him a slap and show the power of a women.