I am 47 years old male I have schizoaffective disorder for 9 years. I do not feel normal most time every day I was operated bariatric surgery 3 years ago I feel very bad after eating for one hour I hate myself because of sedentary lifestyle I am going to marry first time I fear to marry, because my health condition I take risperidone 3 mg every day.

Mr. Saul PereiraPsychologist49yrs exp

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I am concerned that you have not sought the help of a therapist all these years. It is still not too late. Go meet a therapist and get some help to develop tools, skills, and techniques. Mere use of medication will not suffice and cannot help you develop any coping skills. The counseling gives you an avenue to work with your emotional issues and you will develop skills in coping with the everyday challenges that life throws at you. I hope your visits to the psychiatrist were regular and the medication has been frequently reviewed during these nine years. You need to be occupied, and fit into a routine of interesting activities every day. Yoga and meditation is also necessary to train your brain to be disciplined. Exercise always plays a stabilizing role and is the most holistic medicine besides. Since the mind is regularly perturbed by unreal fears, a reality check through counseling will help you discern fact from fiction. Your socializing and maintaining steady relations is the hallmark of a good recovery program. If I am to assume that there were no relapses during this period, then that is a good sign too. This means that your condition has remained stable all of these years! now go to the next level along with therapy and you can look forward to a more functional and productive lifestyle. Regarding marrying, it can be a boon or a bane depending a lot on your compatibility. You must tell her about your problems and symptoms so that she does not get unduly alarmed or distraught. Without taking advantage of your condition you can honestly share what you feel you will need to support your recovery. This can often come from the therapy too. Your adjustability with each other will be tested to the core. So you both must be patient, supportive, caring, giving and loving all through. There will be problems but if you talk about it and reach out early with marriage counseling, you can be comfortable with each other. You could both go for some premarital counseling too.  

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