Dear Sir/ Madam, I am 28 years old preparing for civil services. I was the most confident guy before my breakup which happened in April 2014. She moved on with someone else and asked me to stay friends. I rejected the idea. I didnt contacted her after that. But I went through a strange emotional storm inside. I was unable to study, I was unable to do anything. The only thing on mind was her. I cried a lot during this period. It affected my grades. First time in last 3 yrs I was unable to crack the prelims ( the first stage of exam) because I had only one thing on my mind. There was period of confusion. My focus affected. Then in last September, I bumped into her and her new boyfriend. I acted cool. I shook hands with both. Chatted a bit and left. I was confident. But after I came home, the depressed feelings relapsed. I kept crying. Same period of confusion again engulfed. Days were dark, mainly spent in sleeping. I lost around 10 kg of weight. Unable to control emotions. Worst form of Anxiety, Panic attacks. Even went through post traumatic Stress disorder. But I didnt contact her. Somehow, pick myself up around November. But still not completely. But she sent me text which was supposed to be for her new boyfriend by mistake. It again caused Anxiety. But I somehow managed to control it. Now In March 2015. I am in control of myself and my emotions. Sometimes there is still nostalgia and some remaining feelings. It doesnt affect much now. I dont cry. But now I am not the same. Its difficult to focus back on studies, which I am trying to regain. Slowly, rebuilding my confidence, but I am not that confident as I was. This years exam is coming, I want to start studying just like the way I used to. I dont want the thoughts to put me down again. I want to live healthy - emotionally and physically. Yes gym and running helped me lot last year. What should I do and what should I avoid to keep my focus on studies and forget about past? Also I am afraid of going back into those state of dark days, So how should I avoid that? I have also became a procrastinator, which I never was. I have got myself back, but still feel something is still missing in life, sometimes feels lonely! I request you to help me to get out of it. To get over her completely.
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You have reactive depression with obsessions and phobia and have affective loading. You need to restructure your lifestyle with CBT and try to look forwards and be tough on yourself with alert behaviour, Secondly yopu take Tab Escitalopram 10mg nocte with Clonazepam 0.25mg twice a day. After a fortnight contact us.
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It's not easy to overcome a broken romantic relationship but it's not impossible also. You seem to have a strong fight back spirit and you can use it to your benefit every time life throws something unpalatable at you. It may not be possible to forget the past completely but how you look and remember it is in your hands. Remember the good and bad things about her and the relationship. Give yourself time to heal. Don't judge yourself because nobody is perfect. Regarding your exams, I do notice that you are a serious student with some dreams. If you are not able to achieve those dreams due to any reason for which you are the cause.Then you know who to hold responsible. If you want your dreams and aspirations to come true then you have to work towards it. Set yourself a bigger goal like 80% in exams. Split it into daily/ weekly/monthly achievable goals and start working daily. Remove or reduce any activity which will hinder your progress towards your goals. Add activities which will help you. Put up your goal ona piece of paper somewhere in your room where you can see it everyday and let it sink into your psyche. For this month let your sole aim be to crack the exams. Other problems can wait and be tackled later. Relaxing is important as studies. Do whtever helps you to relax. Eating on time, hydrating yourself, exercising, sleeping well will all help you to remain focussed and full concentration on your work. Remember that Arjun had only the fish's eye in his vision. He had cut off everything else in that moment. Regarding those dark days and feeling.The more you reject them, they will follow you around. Just accept them and don't fight them. They will vanish like magic. Inner Child Meditations will help you address this issue and soothe and calm the mind. All the best.
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