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Dear Sir/ Madam, I am 28 years old preparing for civil services. I was the most confident guy before my breakup which happened in April 2014. She moved on with someone else and asked me to stay friends. I rejected the idea. I didnt contacted her after that. But I went through a strange emotional storm inside. I was unable to study, I was unable to do anything. The only thing on mind was her. I cried a lot during this period. It affected my grades. First time in last 3 yrs I was unable to crack the prelims ( the first stage of exam) because I had only one thing on my mind. There was period of confusion. My focus affected. Then in last September, I bumped into her and her new boyfriend. I acted cool. I shook hands with both. Chatted a bit and left. I was confident. But after I came home, the depressed feelings relapsed. I kept crying. Same period of confusion again engulfed. Days were dark, mainly spent in sleeping. I lost around 10 kg of weight. Unable to control emotions. Worst form of Anxiety, Panic attacks. Even went through post traumatic Stress disorder. But I didnt contact her. Somehow, pick myself up around November. But still not completely. But she sent me text which was supposed to be for her new boyfriend by mistake. It again caused Anxiety. But I somehow managed to control it. Now In March 2015. I am in control of myself and my emotions. Sometimes there is still nostalgia and some remaining feelings. It doesnt affect much now. I dont cry. But now I am not the same. Its difficult to focus back on studies, which I am trying to regain. Slowly, rebuilding my confidence, but I am not that confident as I was. This years exam is coming, I want to start studying just like the way I used to. I dont want the thoughts to put me down again. I want to live healthy - emotionally and physically. Yes gym and running helped me lot last year. What should I do and what should I avoid to keep my focus on studies and forget about past? Also I am afraid of going back into those state of dark days, So how should I avoid that? I have also became a procrastinator, which I never was. I have got myself back, but still feel something is still missing in life, sometimes feels lonely! I request you to help me to get out of it. To get over her completely.


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