RESPECTED PSYCHIATRIST, I AM 65 MALE, I AM LIVING WITH MY WIFE AND WANT TO LIVE WITH HER AS SHE IS angel NOW,BUT SHE TRIGGERS DIABOLIC MEMORIES OF ALL KINDS TORTURE OF HER,HER 5 ELDER SISTERS,HER MOTHER,TWO BROTHER IN LAWS FROM 1990 TO 2005 WHICH DISTURBS MY BLOOD SUGAR.PRESSURE,MOOD ETC. I TOOK SERTA 150 FOR I MONTH AS PER DR. SS HIREMATH,BUT FELT ACUTE DISCOMFORT,DR CR C HELPLESS.KINDLY ADVICE

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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Well you must learn to live in the present, which is what really matters. The past is history, and those memories will remain and loose significance over a period of time, if you do not indulge in them. The more you think about them, they will renew the wounds as though it were still happening. That way you will never heal from those experiences. Your greatness and wellbeing now lie in your ability to forgive them once and for all. Forgiveness is good more for you than for them. I believe in divine retribution and it will happen for sure except that you are not in charge of when and how it happens. But don?t even wish them that. True and genuine forgiveness, in fact, fosters a good attitude towards them and invites prayers for them too. By not forgiving you are hurting yourself while they sit in comfort unperturbed by all those events. Right now your wife, who you describe as an angel, is the one you are living with and if she has transformed to this extent, you must learn to move on. You could also meet a counselor and talk about your old feelings as a way to purge them out of your system. At your age, and with diabetes and blood pressure, the past can only compound your ill health, which you cannot afford to in the twilight years of your life. Live in peace with your beloved and enjoy this life that God has gifted you, fully. Also keep yourself occupied along with your wife so that the day is full of good happenings and create new memories. Go on fun trips and excursions, some of which are organized by some reliable agencies. 

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