I am a student studying in foreign country my studies ain't going so well. This is disturbing me alot. I hab changed alot in past few years since I started in living in foreign land. Before I used to be rebellious rude type of girl but now I am very adjusting and compromising. However I am very sad and oftenly crying. I am not being able to take the failure. I have started to avoid people coz I don like discussing my failure replying peoples questions and even there concern upsets me. I have started to isolate myself and live a lonely life. Please help me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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You may be having issues with inadequacy or fearing the threat of rejection, if you do not do well. You cannot live to please people all the time. Neither can you live avoiding them. You must socialize and learn the art of interacting with others and develop new skills in areas you are lacking in. Attend a personality development course that covers the five factors: physical fitness, emotional fitness, intellectual fitness, social fitness and spiritual fitness. If your studies are failing because you are not able to concentrate get some help through tutoring classes, or do group study. Find out through counseling why you are sad and deal with that emotion to feel better. Never be ashamed of yourself at any time unless you are willfully doing something shameful. You are a precious diamond made by God as a gift. Turn to God whenever you can and have faith in Him to help you. Failure is your stepping stone to success. Tell me one great achiever who has not had failure! You will not find even one, which means it is because of failure they succeeded. You can do that too. Moving to a foreign land may have subdued you enough to behave but when you do so it has opened up underlying feelings too. When they get released, it can become unbearable and overwhelming. But it is a good sign that they are coming up to be sorted out. You can be a better person but meet a counselor to help you. 

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