Hi, I am Samiksha, age 28 and mother of two daughters. After my first child was born, I left my job and became a full time mother. Before that I worked as Legal Manager in Thompson Routers. I feel easily frustrated, depressed, my BP and sugar level goes down, unable to control my anger and thousand other bad things happening with me which in contrary ruining my Marriage. Since past 7 year, I have been suffering from thyroid mal function. Many times due to depression, I had suicidal thoughts but then I feel bad for my small kids. My husband is also a independent Lawyer. I stay at home alone for whole week with my kids and no one talking and sharing my feelings. I keep thinking all crazy and junk. My husband feel I m reason for every bad things happening. I lost my job, career, hopes, patience and peace of mind. I want to make my self happy so that I can make my love ones happy. PLease help.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist48yrs exp

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Wow, that is a whole lot of complications for one person, in one lifetime and with no resolution at the end. I am glad that you gave up on the suicide idea, but not for the reasons you mention. You need to first live for yourself and then the others i.E. You daughters and husband will benefit. Your husband?s assessment is not at all justified. There is no such thing. However, you must look at your life and see, is God a significant part of it? I don?t hear that at all. You must turn to God in all these times of good and bad. ?When God is for you, who can be against you, very true and sensible. Please do cultivate your spiritual wellbeing and you will see some wonderful affects in your life. Then you need to take life into your own hands and make things happen too. Perhaps you are not made to be a mom-at-home kind of person. If the kids are old enough, get them some nanny-care and get out into the vast world full of opportunities. You will make good in the field out there with your background. Do also take charge of your wellness: exercise, eat and sleep well, spend time in the sun every day, meet people, do something productive with your time, work at improving your married life, and bring back your hope, love, peace of mind and activate your career. Things do not happen to us, we do things to attract them to us. If you are positive, you will find positive things happen to you. As you think, so are you. Change your thoughts and you will change who you are. It is as simple as that. Your husband will not find labels and accusations to throw at you. If you let things be as they are, it will become overwhelming and everything can be lost. You end your plea rather beautifully and correctly: I want to make myself happy so that I can make my loved ones happy. Now go out there and do it. Keep me posted with all good developments. 

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