My girlfriend is not a virgin, but I am. I love her immensely, and also intend to marry her. But somehow I always visualize her having sex with her ex. That hurts me a lot. I'm not able to get over it. What do I do?

Mrs. Upasana Chaddha VijPsychologist7yrs exp

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If the two of you are in a committed relationship at present, then worrying about what had happened in the past will only spoil your present relationship. It seems there are some insecurities prevalent for you. The best is to talk about any behavior of your partner that upsets you. If it is less of what your partner does but more of your own visualisation without any real reason to be worried about, I ll suggest introspect what is really bothering you. It could be some unresolved issues that are interfering in the present. Short therapy session would be beneficial for you. Last, trust yourself and your partner, most of the times its our own insecurities which ruin a perfect relationship. Take care.  

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Dr. Sadiq Husain HakimAyurveda29yrs exp

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First of all be happy about her making you confession that she is not virgin that mean she is in truly love with you. In this modern age people cheating in relationships is a very common issue, be grateful you are with an honest person. Your thinking about her past relationship needs to be replaced with the more positive things you have in your relationship and partner. Living in present moment is the key to happiness and success. Take Care.  

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