Hi .I'm 30 years old lady having 13 months old baby. My biggest concern in my life is, my husband. He forces me to do what ever he wants. He never think of my happiness. Ex: he forced me to resign my high paid job though I had interest in working as an IT professional. That's Ok I resigned. He abuse me verbally and physically if I am not doing what he says. He wants me to be a typical house wife. I don't believe in God (I have told him before marriage itself. He was also a non believer of god when we got married 3.5 years before. But now, he criticize me along with his parents that I am not doing pooja at home. I am my mom's place after my baby born, he has visited around 6,7 times. He never knows whether his child is walking or crawling still. Ex: He came last month on the day of my child's birthday and took him inside the car, went somewhere and returned in 10 mins and left. He didn't even speak a word to me. I don't know why did he come and what he done with baby within 10 mins. He never want to know how my baby is doing what he does on day to day life. All he need is, want to see his parent happy that I am not able to do so because me and mother in law has different opinion and We both can't come into same mindset. I am a person always seeks for better companionship to live my life. But now I feel left alone. Parents are supportive but as a lady as a mom I need someone's shoulder to cry and laugh. Divorce/separation is big word for me. Thinking of my family situation, I am not ready to do that. I am away from my husband for around 2 years from my conception. (Rarely he comes and visit that too with anger mood) when I request him to take me and my kid with him, he keeps mum. What shall I do now? Is it good to be away from my husband for few more years or Too much silence will kill our relationship? He works in B'lore. Now my question is, how can I handle a stubborn, irresponsible, non caring person as a husband. I have tried talking him gently with Caring words and shouting at anger never worked with him. Tried both and failed. What might be solution?
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Dear Lybrate user I understand that you have been through loads of hurt, abuse and torture. Any relationship requires efforts from both the sides. a relationship where only 1 person put the efforts then the whole relationship will not be grow and survive in future. If you want to start a fresh with your husband then it's important that your husband also invest equally to make this relationship grow and flourish. so pls think from this perspective and then take any step. another thing that you need to consider is making the decision while considering the development of the child. if go back to your husband's home but still such negative environment of abuse and conflict continues then it may impact the development of your child. so choose a decision based on these. all the best
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