I am 20 years old. I would like to ask you tat I have issues in my relationship. I lied to my lover for a year for my friends but never cheated him. Nw he knows everything n s ready to give a 2nd chance. But he does not trust me n s not able to love me. He s nt ready. To leave me to study n pursue my career. He says f I want career I need to leave him with ii can not bec I love him vey truly. He keeps doubting me every now n then. I. Can not share my feelings wit him bec he gets irritated n then finally ends up telling I wanna break up. I always think only how to make him happy n I have stopped my career but this things make my parents sad? How do I solve this problem?

Mr. Sajen JohnPsychologist3yrs exp

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Dear Lybrate User, Nice of you to write and explain the issues you are facing .Do take some time out and figure out what are your goals and what you want from your relationship. Live your life according to your goals. Take your parents and friends into confidence and ask them for suggestions. Do make priorities and work out as to what will make you happy. Discuss frankly and tactfully your carrier and life goals with your boy friend, take his suggestions too. Relationships are based on trust and understanding. I am sure if you ask your boyfriend for genuine help and assistance to achieve your life goals he will assist you with good suggestions. Remember that a relationship is two way and its better to be clear on the expectations of each side. Wishing you all the best. Do write back if you require any further assistance.  

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