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Hi. This is the case of my cousin brother. His age is 30. He fell in love with a girl, one year elder than him approx. 3 years back, who was already in a relationship with another boy since past 6-7 years. She and her parents asked the boy to marry her several times. But the boy did not marry her giving some or other excuse. He kept taking advantage of the girl physically for his own needs, played with her innocence and feelings. At times when the girl opposed he used to show that he is very upset and hurt coz of her denial. This girl could not sent and used to allow him for sex even without her consent. She obviously was hurting her self respect. But after meeting my brother, they both found each other very compatible and started understanding each other well. Within some time, this girl became everything to my brother. She had almost same feelings for him. After meeting him, she realized her mistakes done in past and started focusing on her own self respect and her own aims in life. But after almost an year when my brother approached his parents for marrying this girl, they refused due to the background of the boy with whom the girl was in a serious relationship before. My brother had to get married to a girl of his parent's choice. But cd not forget the love for this girl. Unfortunately his wife ditched him within almost a month of his marriage and filed false cases against him of dowry harassment etc. My bro took a tough stand and started fighting against the false allegations against him. Since last two years he is fighting various litigations and preparing for any future false litigations. But during these two years, he was in touch with the girl with whom he was in love since almost three years. He used to share each and everything of his life with this girl. But cd not express his true feelings in that old way, coz somewhere or other in his heart he kept feeling guilty of not marrying her. 2ndly he is caught into various law suites. During this period this girl once again relied upon the guy with whom she was in the relation before. She made her mind to marry with that guy and now has married to him. My brother and the girl are in regular touch but as friends now. My brother still loves her, but not for any physical satisfaction. He does have pure feelings for her and respect her as a woman. He cares for her. The girl also knows this and has respect for his feelings. But now a days my brother is in depression thinking that this guy whom the girl has married, may again abuse her physically or use her for self satisfaction by taking her emotionally. This can not be neglected that in India the boys have upper hand after marriage as far as sex is concerned and wife's denial can be taken on ego or to emotionally black mail her. Now when my brother has fought the legal cases strongly and is relaxed somewhat, he has started showing his care for the girl again. But she at various occasions have started ignoring and neglecting him. However, she keeps sharing almost every up and downs of her life with him. My brother does not have any intentions to break the girl's marriage nor he is expecting any physical favours from her. He just wants her presence and her time. Coz even today both understand each other well. My brother still can't remain without sharing things with her and almost the same with her. please suggest whether my brother's true feelings for her is wrong? Is the guy whom the girl is married is really changed and won't take advantages of that girl in future? If he can still trouble the girl, what the girl should be careful of? What should she do to prevent the misuse of her own self respect?


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