I am in a relationship. He has gone for studies to newzealand. He'll come back in January and will get married. But I am feeling insecure, unhappy. Sometimes I react too much. Not able to control my anger in some situations. Sometimes I feel depressed and sad that what will happen in future. Please tell me how can I make my mind relax and become happy.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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It is sounding certainly like an insecurity in you. If he has given his word to marry you in January, then trust him and go with the flow. The insecurity seems to be fear based and may stem from your own past. Meet with a counselor and find out about that and deal with it soon. Another thing to do is never look too much into the future. No one can predict the future, since it has not yet come, and why disturb your present with anticipation of events not yet happened. Nearly 90% of what we worry about never happens!!! So, learn to live and the moment: it is a present/gift. 

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Dr. Jagadeesan M.S.Psychiatrist13yrs exp

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With the advent of gadgets and whatsapp, am not sure why you feel lonely. Distance has been cut down by technology. So till he returns keep in touch with him through these means and then proceed. All the best 

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