I am suffering from the most serious disease that is trauma of my mothers death and I think my father will also die in nark os what should I do.

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Your mother's death must have been a very devastating experience for you. Mother's love and support is indespensible and losing your mother must have created a void in your life. Like you have mentioned, it is huge trauma for you and your father and truma has almost life long impact on the lives of the survivors. It is important to know how you reacted after her death if you have not cried or not shared/expressed you sad feelings then, it might create problems in future for you. Please allow yourself to feel all the pain and express your feelings. Trauma creates an" emotional wound" which has to be treated like a" physical wound" when someone is physically injured and has a deep wound, the doctor needs to apply medicines, and clean the wound periodically. This experience is very very painful for the patient, but if the patient does not do this, then it can create further complications. Emotional wounds are also like this. People many times prefer not to talk about it, suppress it, deny the pain. But this does not help. Like the physical wound, emotional wound needs dressing - which is understanding and talking about the pain. By expressing (by talking or crying) you will relieve your pain. Kindly do that.
You can support your father and seek emotional support from him. You both need some more time to come out of it.
If possible talk to a counsellor, who will help you understand
death and the process of grief. Cherish the good times and memories you shared with your mother. While keeping her memories close to your heart, try to move on with life. Try to accomplish your mother's dreams for you. All the best and take care.

Hemal Sanjay Kunte · Accepted Answer

Your mother's death must have been a very devastating experience for you. Mother's love and support is indespensible and losing your mother must have created a void in your life. Like you have mentioned, it is huge trauma for you and your father and truma has almost life long impact on the lives of the survivors. It is important to know how you reacted after her death if you have not cried or not shared/expressed you sad feelings then, it might create problems in future for you. Please allow yourself to feel all the pain and express your feelings. Trauma creates an" emotional wound" which has to be treated like a" physical wound" when someone is physically injured and has a deep wound, the doctor needs to apply medicines, and clean the wound periodically. This experience is very very painful for the patient, but if the patient does not do this, then it can create further complications. Emotional wounds are also like this. People many times prefer not to talk about it, suppress it, deny the pain. But this does not help. Like the physical wound, emotional wound needs dressing - which is understanding and talking about the pain. By expressing (by talking or crying) you will relieve your pain. Kindly do that.
You can support your father and seek emotional support from him. You both need some more time to come out of it.
If possible talk to a counsellor, who will help you understand
death and the process of grief. Cherish the good times and memories you shared with your mother. While keeping her memories close to your heart, try to move on with life. Try to accomplish your mother's dreams for you. All the best and take care.