Hi I have recently got married. i feel really depressed. Miss my home alot. I also had fights with my husband and the fights in which there was physical violence also. I also fought back and gave him back. He is very impulsive. Now evrything is alright. But still feel very depressed. What can I do.
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You should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. You are recently married. It should take some time to adjust with the new situations. You are supposed to change because you are new there. Please learn to adjust. Please post a private question to me with every detail. I will help you. Take care.
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Both need counselling.
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When you are newly married, you will miss home and your family, initially. It did not help that during that time you have had fights with each other. I don? t know if you are staying with his parents too. That would make it even more difficult. If these fights had not become violent, I would have thought the better for it. The reason is that in the first two years of your marriage, there will be a lot of adjustment problems. This period is very critical and will determine the rest of your life with each other. The patterns of behavior get established and it may be for better or worse. So pay close attention to what is happening and if you need help please go to a marriage counselor and iron out the differences. One of the determinants will be as to who wears the pants in the house i. E. Who is the boss. That is sometimes unfortunately settled even physically. There cannot be two masters in the house. However, I am not suggesting that only one person holds the reigns. I always recommend, instead of equality, that the relationship should be complimentary. The domestic scene is normally the domain of the wife and the husband compliments her in that role. In the fixing, hard manual work, and some shopping etc, it is the area of the husband and the wife plays a complimentary role to support and be there for him. This is the ideal way. These two years please work to refine these roles. If he is impulsive, then have him seek help from a counselor and deal with that. Violence is never recommended. Sigmund freud once said? that violence begets more violence: it is like fighting fire with fire? it never works. I advise you in particular not to resort to violence, because he could do you a lot of damage, if he is stronger. I am hoping that your depression is your feeling of guilt for whatever you have done. If so, it is a sign that you are indeed a good person and do not like this behavior. Just don't do it. Instead have a lot of talks with him and bring better understanding between you two. Your family will always be there and marital relationships are very fragile today. Work towards building this up and you will never feel homesick.
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