Hello, I am suffering with severe social anxiety disorder, can't speak in public, fear, will you you please suggest me medicine. I am using escitalopram 10 mg but no use.

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Your problem happens due to lack of self confidence psychological therapy is the best treatment for the removal of your problem through the online process you contact me for this on Lybrate.

R.N.Chaturvedi · Accepted Answer

Your problem happens due to lack of self confidence psychological therapy is the best treatment for the removal of your problem through the online process you contact me for this on Lybrate.

A.K. Srivastava · Answer

Hi, For long term change you need to change in your thought process and approach towards life, its not limited to any single problem all this becomes part of anyone's personality so you need to change in your approach towards life .any professional can help you in this so pls consult any professional, if you need my help you can contact me online also.

Saul Pereira · Answer

Anxiety and the fear of speaking before people are both related. It seems that you are scared of people and to talk to people. The desire is there but the fear is crippling you. You need to meet with a counselor to deal with this fear and learn how to express the feeling as well as to reach out. There could be a fear of rejection from people or you could be very judgemental about yourself and your value or worth. Are you afraid that you may not speak well, or that your ideas are not that good, or that people will judge you, or that they will find out about how poor you are intellectually, etc. These are unnecessary dialogues you have and they are not true at all. When people are in conversation, we are listening to information and how you present the same. You are very harsh on yourself and have decided, for some reason, that you are not good enough. You may have been reprimanded in childhood for speaking or your parents may have been too strict at home. These could intimidate you when you are to speak in front of people. All these matters must be taken up with the counselor. Start talking to people at home first, particularly children, and slowly grade up to older teens and then to adults, as you build confidence. If you prepare and rehearse the conversation you are likely to have, you will do very well when you actually do it. Now there is no guarantee that whatever you prepared is going to be the exact conversation but since you are prepared most of the conversation will go according to script and the rest will be easy to handle because they will be minor deviations from the main course. You could attend the toastmasters club, and go for conversational skills courses too. Good social practice will eventually see you through. Nothing will happen, if you are passive about this. For your information public speaking is the number one fear of all mankind. Yet, people speak and appear so confident: it is because they use the fear to advantage and prepare themselves well. So you are not alone.