I love a boy a lot we were together for 3 years but then he cheated me I want to get rid of his thoughts I am not being able to sleep nor work

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That is unfortunate, but what were your reasons for loving him? maybe he wasn' t looking for a long term relationship. What made you trust him so much that you didn' t pick up the signs of cheating? most people will leave telltale signs of cheating and disinterest. To get over his memory, you need to look at it from a different way. You can t change what happened, but you can change how you look and respond to that pain and experience. Now you are a free bird and have more time on your hands to do things that you wanted to do but didn' t get time to do. Learn your lessons and move on. Every experience, good or bad has a lot to teach. Learn your lessons and see what and how you contributed to this breakup. Decide to do things differently next time and reduce possibilities of it failing. Remember what was good in the relationship and cherish those moments as good memories. Don' t blame yourself because everyone makes a mistake and you have just started out in life. Next time you will know better. Don' t visit places which you frequented, remove things that remind you of him, meet other people who are supportive of you. Keep yourself busy doing things which are meaningful to you and will take you forward in life. A counsellor will be able to help you mend your broken heart, pick up the strings and start a new life again. Take care.

Samiksha Jain · Accepted Answer

That is unfortunate, but what were your reasons for loving him? maybe he wasn' t looking for a long term relationship. What made you trust him so much that you didn' t pick up the signs of cheating? most people will leave telltale signs of cheating and disinterest. To get over his memory, you need to look at it from a different way. You can t change what happened, but you can change how you look and respond to that pain and experience. Now you are a free bird and have more time on your hands to do things that you wanted to do but didn' t get time to do. Learn your lessons and move on. Every experience, good or bad has a lot to teach. Learn your lessons and see what and how you contributed to this breakup. Decide to do things differently next time and reduce possibilities of it failing. Remember what was good in the relationship and cherish those moments as good memories. Don' t blame yourself because everyone makes a mistake and you have just started out in life. Next time you will know better. Don' t visit places which you frequented, remove things that remind you of him, meet other people who are supportive of you. Keep yourself busy doing things which are meaningful to you and will take you forward in life. A counsellor will be able to help you mend your broken heart, pick up the strings and start a new life again. Take care.